A Mental Playdate

Time for a little homework readers! Sometimes we are so busy thinking about working our bodies out or play dates with the kids we forget one of the most important aspects of ourselves. Our mental state. Some times you just …

Another Recipe for Happiness, based on The Enchanted Self Way of Life!

Recipe for Enchantment #24


Take the advice of an 83 year old lady and follow it:

Read more and dust less.

Sit in the yard, admire the view.

Weed less.

Don’t ‘save’. Use your good China and crystal for…

The Enchanted Self and Magic Potions We Can All Mix That Work Perfectly!

When I talk about magic potions–an expression I use to add drama and fire to our cold winter days–I am really talking about individual mental health formulas designed for each person. These are available in various sizes, shapes and compositions. …

Recipe for Enchantment #20

Living a Life of Enchantment is Very Simple. You need to stir together and develop seven capacities that we all have:

1. You need to know yourself.

2. You need also to like yourself.

3. You need to meet your …

Some Thoughts for Having Mental and Emotional Fun!

My dear friend and mentor, Mr. Del Sylvester used to say that if you become interested in anything, it will become interesting. I knew Mr Sylvester when I was a teenager. I don’t think I fully understood this concept then. …

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, positive psychologist, discusses some of the core concepts of The Enchanted Self at Norwalk Community College, November 2008 at the annual Writer’s Conference



The Pleasures of Making Grandma’s Memories My Own

Each season requires special behaviors and activities on our part to optimize for ourselves living a purposeful and happy life. We actually have to practice our positive emotions, just as the champion tennis player practices her swing. We have to …


As you begin to recognize the positive states of well being from your childhool, i.e., THE ENCHANTED SELF, you can become a better expert at understanding what made them heightened joyful times. It may not be enough to remember a