Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Seven Gateways to Happiness for Us Women!
1. Discover and honor your talents, strengths, coping skills and potential
2. Love the story of your live and find ways to fall in love with who you are
3. Learn how to get your needs met
4. Take time to replenish, to enjoy life, and to find meaning and purpose everyday
5. Belong and don't isolate
6. Be a mentor and find mentors
7. Live generously. Do positive actions and good deeds
For those of you not that familiar with The Enchanted Self, and those of you that are, sit back and enjoy me sharing what The Enchanted Self is with Thor the Barbarian. This is a great show!
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The Happiness for Women Only! series focuses on different age groups as seen below. We take a look at happiness as viewed through the lenses of The Seven Gateways to Happiness.
Dr. Barbara hosts this series, accompanied by her two outstanding guests: Dr. Sandra Prince-Embury, nationally know resiliency expert and author of The Resiliency Scales for Children and Adolescents and Martha Trowbridge, author of books on Inspiration For Women in Crisis.
"Getting to The Truth and More!" (20-35)
"Women and Wisdom Gathering" (Ages 36-49)
"Welcome the Enchanted AARP Woman!" (Ages 50 plus)
A wonderful discussion for all age groups!
My Books
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Wisdom Overheard
Overheard "You shouldn’t say any of the dumb things that make people sad."
This is a wonderful simple Recipe For Happiness. So many times we are thoughtless and say ‘dumb’ remarks that just hurt someone for no good reason. Sometimes we think we are giving useful feedback but we aren’t. Sometimes we just can’t control the impluse to speak. Sometimes we are getting back at someone. But the truth is, these unnecessary comments usually always make the other person feel ’sad.’
Good luck in not saying the unnecessary! All my best, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
You Hear The Sound of Water….
"You hear the sound of water and you know where you want to be." Rumi
Yes, the above is a simple Recipe for Enchantment. We are all able to be triggered into pleasant memories that then can send us on to a joyful mini-vactation of the mind, if we let the memories do their job. So often it is a memory triggered by our sense of smell, or hearing rather than a visual cue. Yes, the sound of water does bring me on a vacation of the mind. Particularly the sound of ocean waves. Immediately I feel relaxed and happy. If I take the time I can indulge in a full visualization. I can design a beach house along an ocean front and enjoy seeing myself sitting outside on the second floor veranda. Oh, this is so sweet!
How can you resist? Why don’t you join me on the veranda? Or perhaps you prefer your own Recipe for Enchantment? Let a sound or aroma come into your senses and then run and get your free airline ticket to a few minutes of paradise!
All my best, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist, www.enchantedself.com
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Recipe for Summer Happiness
When I had the paper version of THE ENCHANTED SELF newsletter we would run a column called, "My spirit Soars When…." We had some lovely entries. Here are several I found on a scrap of paper the other day:
"My spirit soars when the sea wind ruffles my long skirt ias I skip in the surf.
My spirit soards when I recognize each voyager of Noah’s Ark in the summer clouds."
When does your spirit soar? Please share with us. Just capturing the positive memory can lead to a real boost in one’s mood.
Dr. Barbara Becker Hosltein, Positive Psychologist, www.enchantedself.com
Miracle Stories
I love miracle stories! As a positive psychologist I am always encouraging my clients, and others to look at the glass as half full. I heard this story today: A religious Jewish man sat on a plane next to a non-religious Jewish man and offered him some Kosher food. The other man said "No, I no longer eat ‘kosher’ since I came out of the concentration camp and all my family was lost-even my son that I thought would make it through with me!"
Years later the same non-religious man was sitting on a bench on the holiest day of the year-Yom Kippur-smoking and not going to services. The same religious man saw him by chance and invited him into services. He said, At least you can say kaddish for your son and all your family!" The other man finally agreed, dragging his feet.
When they got inside the Shul, the first man said to the Cantor, please sing Kaddish for this fellow. His name is Joe…… and he lost a son years ago in the camps. The cantor’s face turned red and then white-he turned and put out his arms. He was the lost son!
Isn’t that a wonderful miracle story and true!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
Romantic Lockets are the Hot Spring Accessory!
I was reading in Woman’s World for 4/17/07 how Romantic lockets are the hot spring accessory. "They’re so trendy worn with everything from a T-shirt to a flirty dress to an evening gown…." The article also mentions how you can keep loved ones close to your heart with lockets that open for pictures.
This is such fun for me as an author as my new book,THE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything! has a locket as a very important part of the story. Find out more about The Truth on www.enchantedself.com In fact one of the secrets of the girl’s growing up is contained in her locket! Hey, I can’t give the secret away! But you will truly want a locket after reading the book. I guarantee it.
My artist, Cindy Trope is designing some great faux lockets to buy with the book. I’ll be back telling you more!
Would you like to read an excerpt from my book? Here are some:
Recipe for Happiness
Here are some words that inspire bad feelings and thoughts: Bitterness, Apathy, Fear, Pessimism, Selfishness. Wow-I don’t want to even write any more words like that. Let’s cleanse the atmosphere with positive words that bring light to the world.
Here are some: Tranqulity, Compassion, Courage, Creativity, Dignity, Empathy, Forgiveness, Generosity, Gratitude, Hope, Love….
Wow-I could just keep going with words like the above. I’m feeling lighter and lighter~ It is amazing how good words help bighten our lives and the world.
So my recipe is simple: Use words in your speech that are filled with light and positive energy. Use them in three ways: 1. Use them literally in your vocabulary rather than negative words. 2. Speak in a way that helps others experience the concepts that are implied in the bright words. 3. By the way you live, live the concepts yourself.
Your friends, your loved ones and the world at large will thank you for taking to heart this Recipe for Happiness. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,www.enchantedself.com
Inspiration
My mother, Bernice Becker, www.storiestofeelgood.com once wrote a story entitled, I Did-and You Can Too.
She talks about how "In truth I was somewhat like the heroine of a soap opera." She shares how to went from being a bored housewife to getting a master’s degree in education. It all started by taking one art course at the college where my father was the Dean of Administration. And as she says in the story, "Nothing Succeeds like success."
In terms of THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, one of the most important things my mom did was to start to view her life as an important story and within that story to view herself as the key player. By seeing herself as a heroine like in a soap opera she could really appreciate at an organic level all the steps she took to get outside of the box she had felt she was in as a bored housewife. She could give passion and relevance to her life story. We need to do that to invest the energy it will take to make a life fully happen!
I talk about this capacity and how important it is in THE SEVEN GATEWAYS TO HAPPINESS. Don’t forget to get your copy of this paper by writing to me at drbarbara@enchantedself.com
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
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