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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Family Relationship Award of Excellence
My Books
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!
Following on the heels of the best-selling book, The Truth, SECRETS is the continuing diary of a girl moving into her teen-age years. The Girl has plenty to fill her journal. The pages reveal a new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, a new guy and a new set of issues to face. Share the secret world of an almost-teen as she learns which secrets to share and which to keep to herself.
Download an excerpt of Secrets here.
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Weekly Blessing
May the wonders of technology always be a boon to your life and may you have the courage to not let these wonders ‘bust’ your integrity, time or need for genuine privacy and intimate connection that can not be had by turning on an electrical current.
The Enchanted Aspects of a Woman’s Mind
A woman’s mind is like vibrational energy—it gets more energy or less, it works from one cognitive level or another, and it is surrounded by different tones and frequencies and feelings and smells and behaviors and dreams coming true! How wild. How wonderful that we find ourselves landing like fairies in a garden of people and places to love and activities to take on.
Weekly Blessing
May all that befalls you be delicious and filled with delight even if at first you are puzzled or dismayed!
Weekly Blessing
May you always be blessed with freedom, both inside and outside of yourself!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Seven Secrets to Living a Miserable Life!
Seven Secrets to Living a Miserable Life!
You know that I usually talk about the secrets to living a great life. After all, I am a positive psychologist and originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF. But I’ll talk negatively also, if I think I have a chance at convincing my audience to start to look at life from a more positive vantage point. So here are my 7 Secrets to Living a Miserable Life:
1. Constantly put yourself down.
2. Worry, worry, worry.
3. Dwell on every little thing that has one wrong in your life.
4. Focus on your weaknesses.
5. Think that your future will be as lousy as your past.
6. Practice being in a bad mood.
7. View yourself as nothing special.
Let me know what you think of this list and trust me, I have the cure for the above complaints!
Weekly Blessing
“May you be blessed with a disposition that is just as sunny in the rain as in the sun.”
The Enchantress Within Each of Us Returns-Making Potholders, One Stitch at a Time! part 2
I was talking to Nancy Fredericks. She is a corporate consultant and the co-author of a wonderful, empowering book for women, entitled DANCING ON THE GLASS CEILING. As we shared our passion to encourage women to find their strengths and potential (what I call The Song of Your Soul), she shared with me how often she finds that the secret to this personal essence resides in our past.
She remembered herself as a child making potholders. She loved making them, but after awhile she had an awfully lot of potholders. She gave some away and still made them. Then she began to think that there had to be a reason for all these potholders! She started selling them to neighbors. They sold! She made more. She got the idea of enrolling her girlfriends in making potholders. It worked. Suddenly she had a big booming business.
Here she was-a third grader with “the first pot holder mass-production line in her neighborhood.” She began to make a profit.
In her book, Nancy goes on to say that through recalling this aspect of her childhood she came in contact with a clue about her Heart’s Purpose: “a love of business and a talent for managing people and achieving results.”
Nancy’s child is so clear. A business entrepreneur in the making! I will have to play with my child and tease out some of the energy that still asks to be cherished in this part of my life. That’s OK. I’m not in a rush and part of recovering our earlier passions-to now live a life that Nancy labels: “Fully Passionate, Fully Alive”- involves time and nurturing.
Why don’t you ‘play’ with your child for awhile also? Pick an age or a couple of ages and get to know that priceless human being again. I suggest that you keep a list of all the talents, strengths and potential you find as you revisit your younger selves.
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