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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Seven Gateways to Happiness for Us Women!
1. Discover and honor your talents, strengths, coping skills and potential
2. Love the story of your live and find ways to fall in love with who you are
3. Learn how to get your needs met
4. Take time to replenish, to enjoy life, and to find meaning and purpose everyday
5. Belong and don't isolate
6. Be a mentor and find mentors
7. Live generously. Do positive actions and good deeds
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Dr. Barbara's Happiness for Women Only Radio Series
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The Happiness for Women Only! series focuses on different age groups as seen below. We take a look at happiness as viewed through the lenses of The Seven Gateways to Happiness.
Dr. Barbara hosts this series, accompanied by her two outstanding guests: Dr. Sandra Prince-Embury, nationally know resiliency expert and author of The Resiliency Scales for Children and Adolescents and Martha Trowbridge, author of books on Inspiration For Women in Crisis.
"Getting to The Truth and More!" (20-35)
"Women and Wisdom Gathering" (Ages 36-49)
"Welcome the Enchanted AARP Woman!" (Ages 50 plus)
A wonderful discussion for all age groups!
My Books
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
A New Podcast-Bernice Becker reads her stories
Feel Good Stories
The Comfort and Delight of Belonging
I have a desire to share with you, a beautiful story told to me by a young lady.
It was the end of the World War II and her dad was returning home. He came from a very close network of Italian families that lived near each other in New Jersey.
He had a ride back from where his ship had docked. Of course he was filled with emotion as he came closer and closer to home. Suddenly, about five miles from home, he asked to be dropped off. He had decided to walk the last few miles himself and give himself time to emotionally “arrive”.
He wanted to savor every moment of coming home! This was a time to feel the essence of the town he came from, to savor pleasant memories of growing up as he walked and to allow his anticipation to build even further. Every step took him closer to friends and loved ones! He looked at every tree. He enjoyed every house he passed. He didn’t even feel the weight of his duffel bag flung over his shoulder. He took his time walking. His parents knew that he was coming home soon, but they didn’t know exactly when. Thank G-d he was alive! That knowledge was enough to sustain them.
Meanwhile, as he walked several people recognized him. Some called out “hello” and several ran up to him and hugged him. He was offered rides, but refused. However, behind closed doors the magic began. As he passed by these people, the news was quickly transmitted on the telephone that he was coming! Joe’s son was home from the war. Pass the word. And they did.
By the time he got down to his street the street was filled with friends and family waiting for him. Would you believe several hundred? People shouted and clapped. He was hugged and kissed. His bag was taken from him. Everyone wanted to be near him. “Make room for Joe and Rosie! For goodness sake, let them get near their own son!” He literally had to work his way through the crowd of neighbors and other relatives to fall into the arms of his mom and dad. How good it felt to be held again by the two people who loved him so much! And where was that pretty young woman that he meant to look up now that he was home? Oh, well, that would have to wait at least one more day. The rest of today was filled with fresh Italian foods, wine, hugs, stories and a place to come home too.
What a beautiful story. We all need a place to come home to–a place to be loved, to feel connected and with purpose. In The Enchanted Self I teach about belonging and how important it is. I even feel the energy of this young man’s connection to his people and I wasn’t there. The positive energy was so strong that it not only filled his granddaughter–but could still be transmitted to me– and I hope to you.
He needed them and they needed him. He needed his time to re-enter. The energies connecting him and his tribe were so strong that he could not just be dropped off. He had to re-enter slowly at first and prepared himself for the intensity of connection. His tribe likewise prepared itself by a wonderful signal system–smoke coming up in puffs on the desert. The system worked so well that by the time he arrived a celebration was already up and running.
Tribes, or our special groups, are our gift to ourselves. They offer us a gateway so we can come back again and again. They offer us a signal system so that the important things are transmitted in a timely fashion, and they offer us the welcoming arms that help us belong, feel appreciated and have a place. May each of us have the gift of belonging!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchanctedself.com
Happiness is as close as a good laugh!
Life is too short for drama & petty things, so
kiss slowly, laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly.
unknown author
This is a wonderful short Recipe for Happiness. May you always be able to do one or more of the above everyday!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
Feel Good Stories
Bernice Becker reads her stories, shares inspirational comments.
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My New Book: THE TRUTH, I'm Ten, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
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The Truth (I am 10, I am Smart and I know everything)"
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein discuss her book "The Truth (I am 10, I am Smart and I know everything)"
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Recipe for Happiness from Martha Graham
Here is a Recipe for Happiness that is so eloquent I had to share it with you!
There is a vitality, a life force, a quickening,
that is translated through you into action,
and because there is only one of you in all time,
this expression is unique.
And if you block it, it will never exist
through any other medium and be lost.
The world will not have it.
It is not your business to determine how good it is;
not how valuable; nor how it compares with other
expressions.
It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and
directly, to keep the channel OPEN.
you do not even have to believe in yourself
or your work.
You have to keep open and aware directly to the
urges that motivate You. Keep the channel
O P E N.
Martha Graham to Agnes B. DeMille
Sent to me by a dear friend and forwarded to YOU! Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
Ah-Sweet Memories-Here is Another One
Here’s another memory." A few times, I would be invited to stay with my grandparents for the weekend. This was very special to me, because I was one of 6 children, but when I was with my grandparents, they would fuss over me and treat me like an only child. I fantasized that I was an only child for that time. My grandma would make me special dishes I liked, my granpa would teach me Bible verses and how to do jigsaw puzzles. My grandma would let me cut out the paper dolls in her McCall’s magazine. We would sit in her sunroom, which is where she did her sewing and where she had her beautiful African violets and other plants. Grandma taught me to embroider. I loved their house. I would sleep in the bed that was my mom’s when she was a girl. I got to take a bath in the the tub with the legs on it. Everything in their house was clean, beautiful and orderly." Dr. Lucinda Seares Monica
Isn’t this a wonderful memory? It was inspired by reading THE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything. I’m finding that so many women are having a wonderful time remembering themselves and delightful days gone by as they let the little girl in this book open their hearts to themselves!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
—–Original Message—–
Special Memories with Grandparents
"I will never forget how I used to look for my grandpa’s car. It was a maroon colored Mercury, I think. I could see it from a couple of blocks away as I was walking home from school. When I saw the car, I started to run, I was so happy at the thought of seeing my grandparents. I loved them so much, and they adored me, too.
Thanks for bringing that back! " Dr. Lucinda Seares Monica, Psychologist, New Jersey
This wonderful comment really stirs my memory bank. For many of us grandparents play such a special part in our lives. They love us unconditionally and forever. They find delight in all of our ways and that means a lot growing up, particularly as our parents usually don’t seem to be quite as forgiving and accepting.
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In my new book, THE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything! this is certainly true for the girl. She loves to be with her grandparents as they love her just the way she is. They even love the picture of her when her bangs were cut too short!
What are some of your wonderful memories about grandparents? Share please.
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
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