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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Family Relationship Award of Excellence
My Books
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!
Following on the heels of the best-selling book, The Truth, SECRETS is the continuing diary of a girl moving into her teen-age years. The Girl has plenty to fill her journal. The pages reveal a new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, a new guy and a new set of issues to face. Share the secret world of an almost-teen as she learns which secrets to share and which to keep to herself.
Download an excerpt of Secrets here.
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
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SPECIAL: MY GIFT TO YOU
What if you could show your teen or tween grandchild that you can communicate with them on their level? As you know, much of my work revolves around creating strong bonds between grandparents and grandchildren. I have created this 30-minute audio to help grandparents reconnect with their grandchildren. Access it here: www.EnchantedSelf.com/TeleclassGrandparenting.html |
COMPLIMENTARY AUDIO DOWNLOADFinding Happiness – Again
Happiness is not a state to be achieved. It is instead a state to be discovered – or perhaps rediscovered. Dr. Barbara Becker-Holstein can show you how to rediscover that happiness you experienced as a child using memories. She calls this method the Seven Gates To Happiness.
- Would you like to be happy more of the time?
- Would you like to have dreams that really do come true?
- Would you like to better understand how women think and feel and how we can access the best of ourselves?
- Would you like to have access to the mental, physical, spiritual and practical tools that help us to feel happy more of the time?
- Do you agree that it makes sense to live a good life where you are strong in mind, body and spirit and that if you have kids you can help them live happily and healthfully?
You’ve come to the right place: The Enchanted Self! This is where you will learn all about yourself, and your family, in positive ways. You’ll get a chance to rediscover the real you before you were burdened by the stresses of adult life. Once you rediscover the best of yourself, you’ll learn ways to regenerate those talents and strengths into NOW. You will get a chance to better understand family life and particularly how your girls grow and what they need.
I’ll help you along your journey. Some resources include:
- Inspiration via articles and stories that will cheer and guide you; Tele-classes and Chats that offer guidance through The Seven Gateways to Happiness, with topics like Better Parenting, Better Relationships, Self-Esteem, Meeting Your Needs, and more;
- Books, CDs, jewelry, and more that get you started on your own path to happiness and delight;
- Three different blogs which are designed to just for you:
- The Enchanted Self Blog: This blog offers you tremendous resources for your own growth in mind, body and spirit. You will many of my major articles, podcasts, musings, blessings, all designed to open you up to being the best you can be. Also on this blog are archives of 15 years worth of Enchanted Self material.
- Positive Psychology for Women Blog: This blog offers you rich material in women’s development.
- The Truth for Girls Blog: This blog offers you information of how to grow your girls up strong. (Information is great for you boys too). You will also find on this blog a special section for your kids to go to, and a special section for teachers and other educators to use.
Now go ahead and get started. I can’t wait to meet you!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
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NEW BOOK – SECRETS
In SECRETS, the girl is back again with lots more to talk about in her diary. A new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, everything has changed for her. There is a new crush about to happen, and lots of adventures. There are new best friends and some unsettling social dilemmas. Some of these dilemmas involve boys. There are secrets to share, and secrets to keep to herself. There are problems to solve, and . . . But I had better get out of the girl’s way. She really wants to begin.
Announcing Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein’s “Secrets” Virtual Book
Join Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, author of the tween and teen fiction book, Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe! (The Enchanted Self Press), as she virtually tours the blogosphere in June on her fourth virtual book tour … Dr. Holstein’s SECRETS VIRTUAL BOOK TOUR ’10 will officially begin on June 1st and end on June 25th. You can visit Dr. Holstein’s blog stops at www.virtualbooktours.wordpress.com during the month of June to find out more
The Truth: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything
Announcing the Girl’s and Mom’s Edition of THE TRUTH: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything!. Be the first on your block to get the Girl’s edition for your daughter. Be the first on the block to get the girl’s edition for yourself!. It is similar but not identical to the woman’s version. There is a new introduction, just for girls, new questions for both of you to chat about after reading the book, and a slightly modified text where appropriate.
Learn more about THE TRUTH: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything!
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Book Club Encourages Parent-Child Discourse
When seven Manasquan mothers and their sixth-grade daughters discuss a book they’ve all been reading, the conversation is about far more than the story. They share their feelings and thoughts about the issues in the book and about life.
Encouraging such communication was a goal when founding the Manasquan Mother Daughter Book Club in 2006, says Maribeth Pelly, 42, whose daughter Zoe, 12, is a member. The club has achieved that and helped the girls become more confident when expressing themselves, she says.
Here’s another article
Author Helps Teens, Moms Connect
BY LAURIE LAWLESS
Hour Staff Writer
As a young girl, does your life seem complicated? As a parent, does your daughter and her adolescent issues seem confusing and incomprehencible?
Well wonder no more, because Norwalk native, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein has written a new book to help struggling pre-teens and their non-understanding parents. “The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart, and I know everything),” is a fiction diary written by Holstein through the eyes of an 8- to 10-year-old girl.
Read the entire article here.
THE TRUTH (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) in the top 100
The Best You Can Be Foundation names YA book by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein as one of the best
July 7, 2008, Ft. Lauderdale, Fla. – After an evaluation by a panel of teachers, therapists, and children, THE TRUTH (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein has been selected as one of the top 100 books of the year. The Best You Can Be Foundation feels THE TRUTH encompasses helping girls, ages 8 – 14, feel validated and understood.
Read the whole article here…
Great news!
The girl in The Truth has made it to Philadelphia and it is GOOD! I thought you would enjoy reading this summary of my new book. The journalist did a great job of putting in perspective why I wrote the book and how it is useful! I hope the article simulates you to read The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) if you haven’t done so already. And don’t forget to get a copy for your daughter, niece or friend’s child!…
Can You Handle the ‘Truth’?
Little girls provide distinctive perspectives
July 24, 2008 – Frank Rosci, Jewish Exponent Feature
Experts confirm what the majority of people know: Truth comes in a number of forms and reveals itself in myriad ways, and that it’s often relative, depending on the needs and expectations of the seeker.
Now, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, based in Long Branch, N.J., and a nationally known positive psychologist — an officially recognized branch of psychology that centers on what’s right with people — examines what truth is as young girls see it, in her new book, titled The Truth: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything, the first in what is expected to be a series.
The book, which contains a “bit of mystery” because girls love that, noted Holstein, is the fictitious account of a young girl who keeps a secret diary in which she writes about the thoughts, ideas, people and events that shape and forge the truth for her.
Read the whole article here.
 A wonderful interview published in Heart and Soul Magazine. “What is Happy?” You can read the quotes from this article on Dr. Barbara’s Articles and News page by clicking on the Heart and Soul logo. |
 I’m quoted in February’s Cosmopolitan Magazineon page159 in the article, When Your Friends Start Having Babies.The quote is “She will appreciate your making the effort to spend time with her and the child…and will likely return the favor by carving a few hours out of her schedule for just the two of you,” says psychologist Barbara Becker Holstein, author of The Truth: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything. Read my quote in the article here. |
 February 2009, Family Circle MagazineAbove It All by Meredith Janson (pg 124)Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein says in the last paragraph: Stress Less Do a good deed……”an everyday quick good deed can also be a powerful tool by taking the focus off you own problems,” says clinical psychologist Barbara Becker Holstein. Send an encouraging e-card to a friend, drop a donation in the box for the food bank, or ask a co-worker how she is and then take a few minutes to really listen. You’ll both feel better! Read my quote in the article here. |