Finding Happiness – Again!

Happiness is not a state to be achieved. It is instead a state to be discovered – or perhaps rediscovered. Dr. Barbara Becker-Holstein can show you how to rediscover that happiness you experienced as a child using memories. She calls this method the Seven Gates To Happiness.

  • Would you like to be happy more of the time?
  • Would you like to have dreams that really do come true?
  • Would you like to better understand how women think and feel and how we can access the best of ourselves?
  • Would you like to have access to the mental, physical, spiritual and practical tools that help us to feel happy more of the time?
  • Do you agree that it makes sense to live a good life where you are strong in mind, body and spirit and that if you have kids you can help them live happily and healthfully?

You’ve come to the right place: The Enchanted Self! This is where you will learn all about yourself, and your family, in positive ways. You’ll get a chance to rediscover the real you before you were burdened by the stresses of adult life. Once you rediscover the best of yourself, you’ll learn ways to regenerate those talents and strengths into NOW. You will get a chance to better understand family life and particularly how your girls grow and what they need.

I’ll help you along your journey.

Some resources include:

  • Inspiration via articles and stories that will cheer and guide you; Tele-classes and Chats that offer guidance through The Seven Gateways to Happiness, with topics like Better Parenting, Better Relationships, Self-Esteem, Meeting Your Needs, and more;
  • Books, CDs, jewelry, and more that get you started on your own path to happiness and delight;
  • Two blogs which are designed to just for you:
    • The Enchanted Self Blog: This blog offers you tremendous resources for your own growth in mind, body and spirit. You will many of my major articles, podcasts, musings, blessings, all designed to open you up to being the best you can be. Also on this blog are archives of 15 years worth of Enchanted Self material.
    • The Truth for Girls Blog: This blog offers you information of how to grow your girls up strong. (Information is great for you boys too). You will also find on this blog a special section for your kids to go to, and a special section for teachers and other educators to use.

Now go ahead and get started. I can’t wait to meet you!

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein



What if you could show your teen or tween grandchild that you can communicate with them on their level? As you know, much of my work revolves around creating strong bonds between grandparents and grandchildren. I have created this 30-minute audio to help grandparents reconnect with their grandchildren.

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The Truth: Diary of a Gutsy Tween

THE TRUTH: Diary of a Gutsy Tween!

Growing up is tough. Adults don’t always understand you (even though they were once kids), and children today face increasing pressure to be, look, or act a certain way. Written in the voice of a girl on the cusp of becoming a teenager, The Truth provides young girls with an opportunity to see how a girl, who is in many ways like themselves, handles her toughest problems and most personal thoughts. Each new page brings forth a discussion to help girls handle everyday problems: How do you survive a bully? How do you handle a crush on a boy? What can you do about relentless teasing by your peers? What really matters as you grow older?

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SecretsIn SECRETS, the girl is back again with lots more to talk about in her diary. A new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, everything has changed for her. There is a new crush about to happen, and lots of adventures. There are new best friends and some unsettling social dilemmas. Some of these dilemmas involve boys. There are secrets to share, and secrets to keep to herself. There are problems to solve, and . . . But I had better get out of the girl’s way. She really wants to begin.
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Next Year in Jerusalem!: Romance, Mystery and Spiritual Awakenings (Part 1)

Next Year in Jerusalem!: Romance, Mystery and Spiritual Awakenings (Part 1)
Natalie and Maggie, best friends since college, find themselves in the romantic, mystical and intriguing city of Jerusalem when Natalie’s husband, David, takes a short sabbatical there.

The appearance of Jack, a diamond dealer and Natalie’s old boyfriend from college, creates tension and arousal for Natalie. Will she do things she will come to regret? Maggie meets Jack’s friend: tall, dark and handsome. What about her boyfriend back home?

Next Year in Jerusalem!: Around Every Corner, Mystery & Romance in the Holy Land: Part Two

Next Year in Jerusalem!: Romance, Mystery and Spiritual Awakenings (Part 1)
Continue the drama in Part 2 in this Trilogy of Romance Books as Natalie and Maggie, best friends since college, find themselves steeped in the romance, mysticism and mystery of Jerusalem.

The appearance of Jack, a diamond dealer and Natalie’s old boyfriend from college, creates incredible tension and arousal for Natalie. How can see keep her marriage intact? Maggie is mesmerized also by a new man in her life: Raji from India.

The mystery woman, Chaya Sarah, continues to share profound spiritual wisdom. Teaching Natalie the concept of ‘soul mate’ helps Natalie revive her marriage, at least for a night.


Book Club Encourages Parent-Child Discourse

When seven Manasquan mothers and their sixth-grade daughters discuss a book they’ve all been reading, the conversation is about far more than the story. They share their feelings and thoughts about the issues in the book and about life.

Encouraging such communication was a goal when founding the Manasquan Mother Daughter Book Club in 2006, says Maribeth Pelly, 42, whose daughter Zoe, 12, is a member. The club has achieved that and helped the girls become more confident when expressing themselves, she says.

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Author Helps Teens, Moms Connect


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As a young girl, does your life seem complicated? As a parent, does your daughter and her adolescent issues seem confusing and incomprehensible?

Well wonder no more, because Norwalk native, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein has written a new book to help struggling pre-teens and their non-understanding parents. “The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart, and I know everything),” is a fiction diary written by Holstein through the eyes of an 8- to 10-year-old girl.

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THE TRUTH (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) in the top 100

The Best You Can Be Foundation names YA book by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein as one of the best

July 7, 2008, Ft. Lauderdale, Fla. – After an evaluation by a panel of teachers, therapists, and children, THE TRUTH (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein has been selected as one of the top 100 books of the year. The Best You Can Be Foundation feels THE TRUTH encompasses helping girls, ages 8 – 14, feel validated and understood.

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Great news!

The girl in The Truth has made it to Philadelphia and it is GOOD! I thought you would enjoy reading this summary of my new book. The journalist did a great job of putting in perspective why I wrote the book and how it is useful! I hope the article simulates you to read The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) if you haven’t done so already. And don’t forget to get a copy for your daughter, niece or friend’s child!…

Can You Handle the ‘Truth’?

Little girls provide distinctive perspectives

July 24, 2008 – Frank Rosci, Jewish Exponent Feature

Experts confirm what the majority of people know: Truth comes in a number of forms and reveals itself in myriad ways, and that it’s often relative, depending on the needs and expectations of the seeker.

Now, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, based in Long Branch, N.J., and a nationally known positive psychologist — an officially recognized branch of psychology that centers on what’s right with people — examines what truth is as young girls see it, in her new book, titled The Truth: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything, the first in what is expected to be a series.

The book, which contains a “bit of mystery” because girls love that, noted Holstein, is the fictitious account of a young girl who keeps a secret diary in which she writes about the thoughts, ideas, people and events that shape and forge the truth for her.

feb09-ali-defI’m quoted in February’s Cosmopolitan Magazineon page159 in the article, When Your Friends Start Having Babies.The quote is “She will appreciate your making the effort to spend time with her and the child…and will likely return the favor by carving a few hours out of her schedule for just the two of you,” says psychologist Barbara Becker Holstein, author of The Truth: I’m a Girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything. Read my quote in the article here.
heartnsoulA wonderful interview published in Heart and Soul Magazine. “What is Happy?”
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FamilyCircleFeb09February 2009, Family Circle MagazineAbove It All by Meredith Janson (pg 124)Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein says in the last paragraph: Stress Less Do a good deed……”an everyday quick good deed can also be a powerful tool by taking the focus off you own problems,” says clinical psychologist Barbara Becker Holstein. Send an encouraging e-card to a friend, drop a donation in the box for the food bank, or ask a co-worker how she is and then take a few minutes to really listen. You’ll both feel better! Read my quote in the article here.