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Enchantment in an E-mail - December 1, 2003

"Dedicated to helping you find delight and feel good about yourself."


Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Psychologist, Happiness Coach,

and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF®




… to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-letter! The following is what you will find in this month's issue.

  • Recipe for Enchantment

  • Special Holiday Offers: free tele-class & coupon

  • Article: Coming to Your Senses Again and Again!

  • Announcements

  • How to Order Books, Audio Tapes and more

  • E-group: Connect with others like you!

  • Share Your Enchantment!

  • Quote of the Month

  • Blessing of the Month

Recipe for Enchantment #33
Here is a wonderful Recipe for Enchantment that comes all the way from Israel--that most holy of lands!  What a special recipe to 'cook' up during this season of Light!  After all, when it is dark as this time of year, we are the ones who ultimately control bringing the light in!  This Recipe is by Frieda, sent around the world.

  • When someone is in pain, show compassion.

  • Make an effort to spare someone financial loss.

  • Visit someone who is sick, and help care for his needs.

  • Don't embarrass anyone--especially in public.

  • Don't gossip about others.

  • Don't take revenge or bear a grudge.

  • Smile--your happiness affects others.

  • Show respect to the elderly.

  • Find a poor person in your community that you undertake to assist.

Special Holiday Offers!


Free Tele-class: I will be offering a FREE tele-class on the Seven Gateways to Your Enchanted Self!  A special e-note will come to you in a couple of days telling you the details and date.


Please read and sign up immediately for this amazing opportunity to get your Enchanted Self into full gear for the holiday season!  You will be given instructions on how to sign up and the telephone number to call in on for this free class with me!  I can't wait to share this time with you, my dear Enchanted Friends.


Holiday Coupon: Happy holidays!  Enjoy $2.00 off any Enchanted Self gift item!  For a complete list of items visit: www.enchantedself.com/products.htm.  Print and mail or fax this coupon or simply call in your order and mention this special offer!

  • phone: 732-571-1200

  • fax: 732-571-1100

* This offer is not available for items purchased through the web site via Paypal.com.  However, if you call, mail or fax us your order, we can accept credit cards, checks and money orders.  Mention Code: HOL-003

Coming to Your Senses Again and Again!

By Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

When we talk about the Enchanted Self we are referring to positive states of mind and body that are unique to each of us.  We are also referring to the process by which we tap into our Enchanted Self.  (The name I have given to this delightful, happy, elevated part of us that knows how to have fun, feel alive and be joyful.)  One step in the process is learning how to heighten and how to return to positive states of mind and body.  Our memories always assist us.


As autumn flows into winter this a time when most of us prepare ourselves emotionally and physically for the Holiday Season.  Many of us have just come off or a great American tradition: Thanksgiving.  In fact, I am sitting at my computer right now feeling stuffed--too much pie and too many nuts, sweet potatoes, ice cream and who knows what else!


I am literally thankful to be sitting here, though, already 'full' both in the tummy and the heart with more good memories to bank in my personal memory account.  I had the pleasure of time with my children and grandchildren and some other dear relatives.  The minor aggravations already look smaller as I move away from Thanksgiving, and the good moments look larger as they take a place in my personal story.  How can I even further enhance feeling good right now?  How also can I get a quick fix of good emotional energies, when I need them, when I don't feel as great as I do now?


The most important first step is to focus on, review and then 'bank' our current positive moments.  For example, rather than focusing on how tired I felt this morning as the weekend came to a close, I reviewed all the good moments over the last few days.  I used my senses to help me.  I remembered visually the pleasant scenes--sitting with family, joking in the car.  I remembered sounds--my grandson's sweet little voice and laughter.  I remembered aromas--the smell of the fresh applesauce I made on Thursday.  I remembered touch--hugging our cousins.  I remembered tastes--the pecan pie brought from Pittsburgh ... yum!


So, because I had some current wonderful moments I took advantage of them and literally savored them! I practiced tasting them again and again.  I looked for the sensory part of each memory.  A very important way to stimulate positive memories is to utilize your senses: taste, smell, touch, hearing and vision. Very simply stated, your senses provide information, which are transmitted to your brain helping you to perceive the world in which you live. You may never have paid any particular attention to your five senses but when focused upon individually or in groups, they can provide the stimuli necessary to recapture positive experiences either to help 'bank' them for further review and uplift or to go to your memory bank when you need to and take out some old memories that you can once again enjoy by remembering the smells, tastes, feelings, sights and sounds that went with them.


I hope the above serves as a little 'present' for you and that you will try the following play-date with enchantment. 


A Play-date With Enchantment: Using the Past to Your Pleasurable Advantage


Here is an exercise that can help you to retrieve positive images and sensations focusing on one or more of your senses. Begin by closing your eyes and listening to the sounds around you. Listen for a few minutes. When you feel drawn to a particular sound, stay with it. Allow yourself to mentally wonder remembering to focus on the positive. When you are ready, open your eyes and find an object to hold in your hands, such as an article of clothing. Close your eyes and explore the object, listen to the sounds around you. What positive memories and experiences are evoked by focusing on two of your senses, i.e. touch and hearing. Try this exercise mixing and matching your other senses.



Womans World Magazine: I had the pleasure of being quoted in Womans World magazine again.  If you have a copy of the November 18th issue, you can turn to page 32.  Otherwise, you can see it via my web site at this link:  www.enchantedself.com/images/womansworld111803.gif


The Latest Audio Show on LadybugLive.com!: Dr. Adrian Calabrese, author of Ten Steps to a Meaningful Life, has a marvelous personal journey to share, literally going from rags to riches.  He shares with us the magic of how to upgrade our own lives! Learn more about our guest at www.adriancalabrese.com


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How to Order Books, Audio Tapes and more
How about some autographed copies of 'Recipes for Enchantment' with a free copy of The Enchanted Self's paper newsletter and a bookmark? Perhaps you would be interested my first book, 'The Enchanted Self', which is also available on audio tape? Here are some ways to order:

Tip: When shopping online use keywords "recipes for enchantment" and "enchanted self" to locate the books.

E-group: Connect with others like you!
Find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!" Come chat with other "Enchanted Self-ers" at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.
Membership is free and you will have access to our on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and more. It's a great way to connect with others who are exploring, creating and sharing their own positive and satisfying lives. See you there!

Share Your Enchantment!
Share your positive stories and questions about enchantment with us and other Enchanted Self readers around the globe! Our mid-month e-letter focuses on YOU and reaches a subscriber list of almost 700 people from the US, Canada, Australia, the United Kingdom, and many other countries! Please send stories, comments, and questions to encself@aol.com.

Quote of the Month
"All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander all lost."

-- J. R. R. Tolkien

Blessing of the Month
May you be truly blessed to always glitter with a radiance that shines from deep within you, and when you wander may you never be lost, only enjoying the walk!


Have an "enchanting" month. I wish you all many enchanted moments!


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