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"Achieving Positive States of Mind and Body Again and Again"

Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein : Psychologist, Life Coach, and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R)


Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find in this month's issue.

Quote of the Month

"As a cook I was always fascinated with eggs.  I saw them as a culinary magic wand, turning thick batters into tall, puffed souffles and milky liquids into firm custards.  The whites were thrilling, the way they jelled and turned opaque as they cooked, or whipped into a stiff white foam."

-- Phyllis C. Richman, American Writer as quoted in Kitchen Wisdom, A Collection of Savory Quotations, published by Running Press.  

Blessing of the Month

May you always be able to focus on the small delights of being alive and notice and enjoy the amazing combinations of ingredients that assemble in our lives for our pleasure and nourishment!

Recipe for Enchantment #10

Take anything simple, grown from the earth, such as an ear of corn.  Modify your own recipe based on my example:

I am sure that as you smell the earthy freshness you will feel refreshed--perhaps as if you just arrived on a farm for a visit.  Does the aroma bring back any pleasant memories for you?  Take your time--when fully refreshed cook the corn and enjoy every mouthful.

You have done service to your spirit by helping to enhance your vitality and many dimensions, and you have done service to the ear of corn -- hopefully eating it with delight.

Article: Life Writing, One Facet of Living an Enchanted Life

by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

I started life writing in the fifth grade.  My mother bought me my own Girl Shout diary! Are you wondering what a Girl Shout diary is?  It was a Girl Scout diary kept by me. I had a minor learning disability, undiagnosed in those days, resulting in funny spellings. Undaunted, I wrote to Dear Diary, sharing the best of I Love Lucy, visits with grandparents, and weekly meeting with the Girl Scouts.  Then one day this dairy was put away. Junior High School, High School and college were years when I took pen to hand on loose leaf papers. I kept details of my love life, shed many a secret tear and wrote some of my finest, darkest poetry.  Adult life found me writing on fragments of papers. These scraps housed everything from cute expressions my children used to my less dark poetry.

When I decided as a psychologist to interview women who were not in my practice, then incorporate my findings into a book, I never dreamed how much my own life writings would play an essential part. I had interviewed women ages 35 through early 80's, looking at how messages they received growing up about themselves, influenced them as adults.  I asked them when they felt most whole, most joyful. In analyzing my data, I had an "Aha" moment. I saw these women, no matter how dysfunctional their childhoods, and no matter how many negative messages they had received growing up, had managed to find pleasure and joy in their adult lives. This insight convinced me that we have not utilized the history taking of our lives to focus enough on what is giving us pleasure and joy. Also we haven't learned to harvest out past so as to discover precious moments even in the most dysfunctional of times.   This included me.

In writing THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, I began writing about my past and experiences again, but this time looking for precious treasure: the positive parts of myself and my life. In writing down my thoughts, feelings and memories, I discovered many wonderful memories growing up.  I found myself remembering times where I felt delighted with life and full of energy. There were moments of elation and successes when my true and sometimes lost potential showed through.  I discovered events that even though they had felt unpleasant as I lived them, held within them so many of special gifts. I began to hold and treasure these times as I wrote them down, feeling deeply moved on occasion, to the point of tears ...

Ultimately what the women taught me and the personal journey I then went on, has led to my writing to you.  I hope this e-mail newsletter stimulates you to recognize the best in yourself, in your history, and in your potential.  For you too, have a treasury inside.

Exercise: Journaling

This exercise involves making positive deposits in your memory banks.  Over the next few days, stay alert to when you are in a good mood.  Try to use all you senses to experience the present more fully, especially when you become aware of a potential 'deposit'.  When the moment is right, ask yourself the following questions:

Take the time to describe them by writing them down or dictating them into a tape recorder.  Now gradually refocus your mind on the present.

Try to be aware of the details, taking time to savor them as you deposit them into your memory bank.  If writing or dictating a narrative does not come easily to you, try drawing a picture, writing a poem, or composing a tune.  Just do something to capture the moment in a way that is meaningful to you.  Your abilities as an artist, writer, or composer are less important than your desire to relish life.

Announcement 1: New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

My new book is now available through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.  You can also order the book from me via my web site and receive an autographed copy, complete with a free copy of my paper newsletter and bookmark.  I have also dropped the price to $9.95 plus $4.00 shipping and handling.  The book will be sent out within six to eight weeks.  Details are now posted on my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering1.htm.  For a sneak peak go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/newbook.htm.

Announcement 2: Virtual Class

Join me for an April tele-class on 'The Seven Gateways to Enchantment'.  For details on upcoming tele-class schedules and registration instructions head to http://www.enchantedself.com/teleclass.htm.

Announcement 3: Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!

You are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through our e-group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.  Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.  I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a positive and satisfying way of life.  Join us to find out "what's right with you -- not what's wrong!"

Announcement 4: Enchanting Questions...

Perhaps you read last month's new bi-weekly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  Each month I will focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment and/or a reader's ideas on enchantment. Please give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.  They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.


Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many enchanted moments!



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