“Cute Shoes!” A signal for Happiness that goes with The Enchanted Self

I was with a young woman who had on the most adorable sandals.  They had a cute wedge hell and pretty straps and I just felt good looking at her move in them.  I said to her, "Wow, I love your shoes.  They are so cute."  She said, "I always feel happy when I wear these shoes.  I wore them three times to the islands and everytime had a great vaction.  Just wearing them brings me back to those great times!"

I said to her that is exactly what The Enchanted Self is all about-recognizing what makes us happy and making sure we bring it into our lives again and again.  In her case she used her positive memories and tied them to a physical object-her shoes.  But even if the shoes no longer existed, she could still use her memory and remember them and get a good feeling.  I talk all about these ways to happiness in my first book, THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, and on my website, www.enchantedself.com

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com

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