Rabbi Pliskin in one of his messages suggests giving names to our positive states of being so we can remember them more easily later. I think this is a great idea. In fact, that is the main reason that I came up with the title, THE ENCHANTED SELF, so women would begin to recognize when they are happy and call it by a name, THE ENCHANTED SELF, so they would not let these times just slip by. And it has worked very well. Women write to me and tell me that they had an Enchanted Self moment today and then recount a wonderful way that they felt or something special that happened.
However, it is a good idea to take it even further as Rabbi Pliskin suggests. Thus today I was remembering how great I felt the day I was taking some of my Enchanted Self cable tv shows over to Cablevision so they could be shown in Monmouth County. It was a beautiful spring day. I felt very alive and healthy and I was listening to a wonderful mystery tape in the car. It was a Faye Kellerman mystery and I was so enjoying it. I remember thinking that this was a special day. I was relaxed. I was proud of myself, having a local tv cable show. And the girl who had loved Nancy Drew was now a woman still enjoying a great mystery. So I have decided to call that day my Enchanted Self Faye Kellerman Day. And I believe it will be easier to remember it and savor it again.
Why don’t you try to name your special times? I hope you will use the term Enchanted Self, but whether you do or not, the important thing is that you give them names that you can recall easily. That way, anytime you need to be cheered up or you just want to get even more pleasure out of the moment, you can call up your own Enchanted Self moments.
Let me know how it goes! All my best, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist, www.enchantedself.com