Enchantment in an E-mail - Jun 2005
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,
Psychologist, Happiness Coach, and Originator of
THE ENCHANTED SELF®
Welcome to the June 2005 issue of The Enchanted
Self's e-newsletter! The following is what you will find
in this month's issue.
- Recipe for Enchantment
- Article: “TOOLS FOR PUTTING ENCHANTMENT INTO YOUR LIFE”
- Share Your Enchantment!
- Quote of the Month
- Blessing of the Month
- Announcements & Ordering information
"Buy Delight book or CD and Join Free Teleclass"
- E-group: Connect with others like you!
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Recipe for Enchantment #51
Here is a new and fun way to swallow a smile and
begin your day with laughter in your heart.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath and let
out all your invisibley held tensions.
Now smile, bend the sides of your mouth upwards
and hold the smile.
Visualize this smile turning inward and lighting
up your eyes, floating up to your brain and washing
it with joy...then moving down to your nose,
and slipping down your throat.
All the time the smile is bringing a new sense,
a new energy of joy to your face.
It is like you are catching the “Happiness Bug.”
Let the smile infuse into your heart, shine its
light into your stomach, relax your lungs, so
you can take an even bigger breath.
Let the smile you swallowed move and refresh
every limb, muscle and organ of your body.
Let it infuse into your blood.
Sit a moment and enjoy this experience.
You will open your eyes and truly truly feel
like a new person.
Enjoy your smile all day long! And so will
others enjoy being around you more!
This recipe was shared by Mary Ellen, the internet
"Angelscribe" and author of "Expect Miracles" and
"A Christmas Filled With Miracles". Her website is
TOOLS FOR PUTTING ENCHANTMENT INTO YOUR LIFE
by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
When I began to call the special part of ourselves that
can be found somewhere between the mind, body, spirit
and heart THE ENCHANTED SELF®, many, particularly
women, expressed their appreciation over and over
again. "Thank you for giving a name to this special
part of me," and "This is the part of me that I always
devalued and ignored because I thought I wasn't
entitled to it. Now that you've identified it, I feel
justified in developing this part of myself!"
THE ENCHANTED SELF is indeed a very special part of
each of us. You may not have given it a name. You may
have dismissed it as trivial—perhaps unimportant in the
scheme of a hectic busy, demanding life—but deep inside
you've yearned to find it and let it out. There comes a
moment in every woman's life when it is time bask in
your personal delight, happiness and joy. When that
time comes—and now that we know it as THE ENCHANTED
SELF—we can proudly enjoy it and hold onto it.
But what are the tools to get to THE ENCHANTED SELF
part of ourselves? What skills do we need in order to
capture and hold onto this special part of ourselves?
Although some of you have read about the Seven Gateways
to ENCHANTMENT, many of my newer readers have not.
They are so crucial as actual tools for upgrading your
experience of happiness on a daily basis that I am
sharing them again with you.
Let's look at the First Gateway in this newsletter:
First Gateway: Honoring what is Right about Ourselves
Rather Than what is Wrong
I have found that we're all experts in identifying what
is wrong with ourselves. We can probably quickly make
up a long list, detailing what is wrong in our lives.
However, it's a lot harder to get in touch with what is
We need to know ourselves in positive ways. We need to
learn how to honor our talents, strengths, even our
coping skills which serve us so well. And most
important, we need to treasure and enjoy our potential.
These parts of us, if not honored, identified and
talked about both to ourselves and to others, will lose
their power. We have to ignite them and nurture their
special qualities. We need to get to know ourselves in
ways that emphasize the heroic, strong parts of
This means using our memories in very different ways
from what we've been accustomed to. It means searching
through our history to find our talents, strengths and
even lost potential, even if we have to sort through
pounds of dysfunction. It means searching our past for
what is right about our selves, not for what is wrong.
Stacie had very negative feelings toward her mother and
her aunt, who would both often put her down and
criticize her. However, once she was well into her
therapy, she began to enjoy sorting through her past,
realizing that many of the talents and strengths she
had acquired had been based either by example from
these women, or by compensating for their deficits. By
example, she had learned to sew, cook and have the best
vegetable garden that anyone could imagine, even while
working full time. By compensating, she learned to
guard her tongue and never jump to criticize others.
This latter capacity has served her well in her job,
while the former gave her day-to-day pleasure in
hobbies and in good food.
A Positive Activity for You
Pick a time period from earliest childhood to the
present. Find a quiet spot, a quiet time, and begin to
list the talents, strengths, coping skills and
potential that you got and currently display from that
time period. You may have to sort through
disappointments and hurts, but you will still find a
way to label what's right about yourself.
Take your time. Keep this list with you, and add to it
over the next few weeks or even months. Read it again
and again to reinforce within you what is right within
you, rather than what is wrong.
Share Your Enchantment!
Share your positive stories and questions about
enchantment with us and other Enchanted Self
readers around the globe! Our twice monthly e-zine
focuses on YOU and reaches a subscriber list of
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Please send stories, comments, and questions to
Inspirational quote of the Month
"A smile is worth a thousand words."
Blessing of the Month
May you always have an easy smile that tastes good
when you swallow and is a pleasure for everyone else
Where oh Where is my ENCHANTED SELF?
Dated: June 27, 2005
Time: 08:00pm EST
Join Dr. Holstein for an exciting search-where oh where
has my Enchanted Self Gone? Is she hiding? Is she lost?
Has she run away? Will I ever find her? Great Questions
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free one hour teleclass.
This teleclass is for all those who wish to lead an
enlightended or enchanted life and who purchase
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein's new book or CD "Delight",
are invited to join us for a free one hour Teleclass
June 27, 2005.
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