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Enchantment in an E-mail - Jun 2005
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,
Psychologist, Happiness Coach, and Originator of
Welcome to the June 2005 issue of The Enchanted
Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find 
in this month's issue. 
- Recipe for Enchantment 
- Share Your Enchantment!
- Quote of the Month
- Blessing of the Month 
- Announcements & Ordering information
  "Buy Delight book or CD and Join Free Teleclass"
- E-group: Connect with others like you!
  ** e-Radio Magazine **

A special announcement about this newsletter:
Next week we will be trying this newsletter in a new 
format. Please open and read. There will be a new 
article in the new format that I don't want you to miss! 
Also, please give me feedback as to which way you prefer 
to receive Enchantment in an e-mail. 

Recipe for Enchantment #51

Here is a new and fun way to swallow a smile and 
begin your day with laughter in your heart.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath and let 
out all your invisibley held tensions.
Now smile, bend the sides of your mouth upwards 
and hold the smile.
Visualize this smile turning inward and lighting 
up your eyes, floating up to your brain and washing 
it with joy...then moving down to your nose, 
and slipping down your throat.
All the time the smile is bringing a new sense, 
a new energy of joy to your face.
It is like you are catching the “Happiness Bug.”
Let the smile infuse into your heart, shine its 
light into your stomach, relax your lungs, so 
you can take an even bigger breath.
Let the smile you swallowed move and refresh 
every limb, muscle and organ of your body.
Let it infuse into your blood.
Sit a moment and enjoy this experience.
You will open your eyes and truly truly feel 
like a new person.
Enjoy your smile all day long! And so will 
others enjoy being around you more!

This recipe was shared by Mary Ellen, the internet 
"Angelscribe" and author of "Expect Miracles" and 
"A Christmas Filled With Miracles". Her website is
TOOLS FOR PUTTING ENCHANTMENT INTO YOUR LIFE by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein When I began to call the special part of ourselves that can be found somewhere between the mind, body, spirit and heart THE ENCHANTED SELF®, many, particularly women, expressed their appreciation over and over again. "Thank you for giving a name to this special part of me," and "This is the part of me that I always devalued and ignored because I thought I wasn't entitled to it. Now that you've identified it, I feel justified in developing this part of myself!" THE ENCHANTED SELF is indeed a very special part of each of us. You may not have given it a name. You may have dismissed it as trivial—perhaps unimportant in the scheme of a hectic busy, demanding life—but deep inside you've yearned to find it and let it out. There comes a moment in every woman's life when it is time bask in your personal delight, happiness and joy. When that time comes—and now that we know it as THE ENCHANTED SELF—we can proudly enjoy it and hold onto it. But what are the tools to get to THE ENCHANTED SELF part of ourselves? What skills do we need in order to capture and hold onto this special part of ourselves? Although some of you have read about the Seven Gateways to ENCHANTMENT, many of my newer readers have not. They are so crucial as actual tools for upgrading your experience of happiness on a daily basis that I am sharing them again with you. Let's look at the First Gateway in this newsletter: First Gateway: Honoring what is Right about Ourselves Rather Than what is Wrong I have found that we're all experts in identifying what is wrong with ourselves. We can probably quickly make up a long list, detailing what is wrong in our lives. However, it's a lot harder to get in touch with what is right. We need to know ourselves in positive ways. We need to learn how to honor our talents, strengths, even our coping skills which serve us so well. And most important, we need to treasure and enjoy our potential. These parts of us, if not honored, identified and talked about both to ourselves and to others, will lose their power. We have to ignite them and nurture their special qualities. We need to get to know ourselves in ways that emphasize the heroic, strong parts of ourselves. This means using our memories in very different ways from what we've been accustomed to. It means searching through our history to find our talents, strengths and even lost potential, even if we have to sort through pounds of dysfunction. It means searching our past for what is right about our selves, not for what is wrong. Case Vignette Stacie had very negative feelings toward her mother and her aunt, who would both often put her down and criticize her. However, once she was well into her therapy, she began to enjoy sorting through her past, realizing that many of the talents and strengths she had acquired had been based either by example from these women, or by compensating for their deficits. By example, she had learned to sew, cook and have the best vegetable garden that anyone could imagine, even while working full time. By compensating, she learned to guard her tongue and never jump to criticize others. This latter capacity has served her well in her job, while the former gave her day-to-day pleasure in hobbies and in good food. A Positive Activity for You Pick a time period from earliest childhood to the present. Find a quiet spot, a quiet time, and begin to list the talents, strengths, coping skills and potential that you got and currently display from that time period. You may have to sort through disappointments and hurts, but you will still find a way to label what's right about yourself. Take your time. Keep this list with you, and add to it over the next few weeks or even months. Read it again and again to reinforce within you what is right within you, rather than what is wrong. Share Your Enchantment! Share your positive stories and questions about enchantment with us and other Enchanted Self readers around the globe! Our twice monthly e-zine focuses on YOU and reaches a subscriber list of almost 2,800 people from the US, Canada, Australia, the United Kingdom, and many other countries! Please send stories, comments, and questions to Inspirational quote of the Month
"A smile is worth a thousand words." unknown author Blessing of the Month May you always have an easy smile that tastes good when you swallow and is a pleasure for everyone else to savor! Barbara Announcements Teleclass Where oh Where is my ENCHANTED SELF? Dated: June 27, 2005 Time: 08:00pm EST Join Dr. Holstein for an exciting search-where oh where has my Enchanted Self Gone? Is she hiding? Is she lost? Has she run away? Will I ever find her? Great Questions and Dr. Holstein has the answer to all of them... in the free one hour teleclass. This teleclass is for all those who wish to lead an enlightended or enchanted life and who purchase Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein's new book or CD "Delight", are invited to join us for a free one hour Teleclass June 27, 2005. "Delight" - Book: $14.95 or CD rom: $24.95 and Free one hour Teleclass. To buy the books visit and then go to which ever edition of DELIGHT you prefer. This will automatically enroll you in the class and details will follow. OR AN EVEN MORE UNBELIEVABLE BETTER DEAL: Call Dr. Holstein at 1-877-B-Joyful and pay $10.95 for a double cassette version of THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, including postage and be part of this great teleclass! You can charge on the spot when you call and the set of tapes will got out to you the next day! Newsletter with Inspirational Stories Storytime Tapestry the Newsletter devoted to spreading love and cultural awareness throughout the world is a free daily inspirational featuring stories, and poems from over 205 of the Internet's most talented writers. To join contact the publisher, Carol Roach:, or sign on directly at: For all information on ENCHANTED SELF products go e-Radio Magazine I am thrilled to announce that I now have an e-radio magazine, of course called THE ENCHANTED SELF. You can hear my monthly magazine by going to and look for THE ENCHANTED SELF. This month's edition is "In the Business World". I have on amazing guests, come and listen! e-group E-group: Connect with others like you! Find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!" Come chat with other "Enchanted Self-ers" at Membership is free and you will have access to our on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and more. It's a great way to connect with others who are exploring, creating and sharing their own positive and satisfying lives. See you there! Have an "enchanting" month. I wish you all many enchanted moments! Forwarding & Reprinting (C) 2000-2005 Copyright The Enchanted Self - All rights reserved. Please feel free to pass this issue on to someone who might enjoy it. The Enchanted Self Newsletter is copyrighted but may be quoted, reprinted, or distributed in whole or part without prior permission, provided the content is not changed and attribution is given including: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) I also encourage you to include this material in other publications, such as self-healing and professional psychology newsletters. However, I do ask that you contact me beforehand for permission and send a sample issue. To learn more about THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) - An Educational Approach to Positive Psychology, please contact me or visit my web site. phone: 877-B-JOYFUL fax: 732-571-1100 URLs: e-mail: If you should ever need to un-subscribe to The Enchanted Self mailing list, send an e-mail message with the following in the body of the message: unsubscribe More_Happiness To unsubscribe successfully, the e-mail must come from the same e-mail address that you signed up with.

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