Enchantment in an E-mail - Apr 2005
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,
Psychologist, Happiness Coach, and Originator of
THE ENCHANTED SELF®
Welcome to the April 2005 issue of The Enchanted
Self's e-newsletter! The following is what you will find
in this month's issue.
- Recipe for Enchantment
- Article: Moving we all do it but…
- Share Your Enchantment!
- Quote of the Month
- Blessing of the Month
- Announcements & Ordering information
** New e-magazine, THE ENCHANTED SELF **
- E-group: Connect with others like you!
Recipe for Enchantment #49
I found this 'Recipe' in From History'Thoughts on
Virtue, Thoughts and Reflections From History's Great
Thinkers. I hope you enjoy it!
Do all the good you can,
in all the ways you can,
to all the souls you can,
in every place you can,
at all the times you can,
with all the zeal you can,
as long as ever you can.
MOVING TOWARD THE PROMISED LAND
by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
In the last Enchanted Self e-mail newsletter we began
to talk about freedom. Personal freedom is essential
for one to feel comfortable as an Enchanted
Self-someone able to access positive states of meaning
again and again, while living a life of meaning and
Last time I used the Exodus from Egypt as a
metahporical example of some of the struggles that we
all face in obtaining personal freedom. Today, let's
look at the notion that the Hebrews kept their own
language. We could expand that to mean they expressed
themselves in words that had essence to them, that fit
what their world view. We know that words have subtle
meanings attatched to them. Every time we speak in a
different language, we slightly change the world view
of what we are saying and what it means. An easy
obvious example is 'snow'.
Eskimos have 40 ways to talk about snow. We, as far as
I know, we have only one way. Now this means when I go
out to look at the snow in New Jersey, (occasionally we
have snow), I'm looking at it and I'm saying "Gee it
snowed". While an Eskimo could go out and look at the
snow and have at least 40 different ways to talk about
what he was seeing. He would actually see subleties
that I'm not even seeing. Thus we each carry our world
view, composed of the unique memories, feelings and
impressions we have collected through our lives.
Everyday, we have reactions and interpretations of what
we do, what we see, what we feel. These may be quite
consistent with the world we live in, but will still
have an uniqueness based on what we give to the
experience of being alive. Everyday, as we step out of
our homes, as we get on the bus, as we go to work, as
we talk to our friends, as we process information we do
all through our eyes, not someone else's. In fact,if
we try to live exactly like someone else, it just
doesn't feel right. It feels lousy. We feel like we've
been pushed and sometimes we feel diminished-that how
we feel or think doesn't really count.
Let me talk a little about how this works by sharing
what a friend told me awhile ago during a bad time in
her marriage. She had gone to a lecture where the
speaker talked about how we all have to go out of our
own personal Egypt, at times in our lives. She said
that was certainly how she was feeling, struggling
through some bad days with her marriage where she often
felt criticized or misunderstood. She felt that the
language between them no longer worked. All words
seemed to lead to further arguments and put-downs. She
was trying to find ways to honor herself through
speaking 'her own language'. Again, I mean that
metaphorically. For example, one day she went out with
her fiends, shopping and having so much fun. She felt
as if she and was leaving her Egypt for a day and
meeting her own needs. She could speak in ways that
were understood, and relax without fear of conflict.
She could laugh. Her friends 'got it' -whatever 'it'
was, they all understood each other. Shequickly found
herself feeling uplifted during that day's outing.
Whether it is at this time of year when Passover comes,
or any other time of year, we need to work toward our
own personal freedom in every significant area of our
lives. My friend left her own Egypt by maintaining a
sense of her own needs and what made her joyful. In her
case shopping, good conversation, and laughter with
friends was a successful recipe for well-being.
She knew she hadn't reached the promised land yet.
She knew she had a difficult marriage to work on and/or
ultimately leave, but she found a way to at least
temporarily release herself and be was true to
That's what THE ENCHANTED SELF is all about. If we can
keep achieving positive states of mind, body and
spirit, then we move closer to really working on the
expression of our true selves, in ways that can only
bring us personal satisfaction and be of positive
benefit to others and the world at large!
Share Your Enchantment!
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Inspirational quote of the Month
"I am changed by you Forever, Let it be good"
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,
p.179 of The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy.
Blessing of the Month
May you always experience freedom in ways that bring
I am thrilled to announce that I now have an e-radio
magazine, of course called THE ENCHANTED SELF. You can
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This month's edition is IT IS NEVER TOO LATE! Next week
there will be a new edition entitled ACTS OF KINDNESS. I
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New Books and More!
I am thrilled to annouce the birth of two new Enchanted
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life as only Bernice Becker, my wonderful Feel Good mom of
85 can write for us! It is the first Enchanted Self Book that
is not written by me! Will your wonderous thoughts be one
of the future books?
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storm as my journey of growth both emotional and spiritual
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Have an "enchanting" month. I wish you all many
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