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Enchantment in an E-mail - Apr 2005
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,
Psychologist, Happiness Coach, and Originator of

Welcome to the April 2005 issue of The Enchanted
Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find 
in this month's issue. 
- Recipe for Enchantment 
- Article: Moving we all do it but… 
- Share Your Enchantment!
- Quote of the Month
- Blessing of the Month 
- Announcements & Ordering information
  ** New e-magazine, THE ENCHANTED SELF **
- E-group: Connect with others like you!

Recipe for Enchantment #49

I found this 'Recipe' in From History'Thoughts on 
Virtue, Thoughts and Reflections From History's Great 
Thinkers. I hope you enjoy it!
Do all the good you can, 
in all the ways you can,
to all the souls you can,
in every place you can,
at all the times you can,
with all the zeal you can,
as long as ever you can.  
John Wesley

by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In the last Enchanted Self e-mail newsletter we began 
to talk about freedom.  Personal freedom is essential 
for one to feel comfortable as an Enchanted 
Self-someone able to access positive states of meaning 
again and again, while living a life of meaning and 
Last time I used the Exodus from Egypt as a 
metahporical example of some of the struggles that we 
all face in obtaining personal freedom.  Today, let's 
look at the notion that the Hebrews kept their own 
language. We could expand that to mean they expressed 
themselves in words that had essence to them, that fit 
what their world view. We know that words have subtle 
meanings attatched to them.  Every time we speak in a 
different language, we slightly change the world view 
of what we are saying and what it means.  An easy 
obvious example is 'snow'. 

Eskimos have 40 ways to talk about snow. We, as far as 
I know, we have only one way. Now this means when I go 
out to look at the snow in New Jersey, (occasionally we 
have snow), I'm looking at it and I'm saying "Gee it 
snowed". While an Eskimo could go out and look at the 
snow and have at least 40 different ways to talk about 
what he was seeing.  He would actually see subleties 
that I'm not even seeing. Thus we each carry our world 
view, composed of the unique memories, feelings and 
impressions we have collected through our lives.  
Everyday, we have reactions and interpretations of what 
we do, what we see, what we feel.  These may be quite 
consistent with the world we live in, but will still 
have an uniqueness based on what we give to the 
experience of being alive.  Everyday, as we step out of 
our homes, as we get on the bus, as we go to work, as 
we talk to our friends, as we process information we do 
all through our eyes, not someone else's.  In fact,if 
we try to live exactly like someone else, it just 
doesn't feel right. It feels lousy. We feel like we've 
been pushed and sometimes we feel diminished-that how 
we feel or think doesn't really count. 
Let me talk a little about how this works by sharing 
what a friend told me awhile ago during a bad time in 
her marriage.  She had gone to a lecture where the 
speaker talked about how we all have to go out of our 
own personal Egypt, at times in our lives.  She said 
that was certainly how she was feeling, struggling 
through some bad days with her marriage where she often 
felt criticized or misunderstood.  She felt that the 
language between them no longer worked.  All words 
seemed to lead to further arguments and put-downs.  She 
was trying to find ways to honor herself through 
speaking 'her own language'.  Again, I mean that 
metaphorically.  For example, one day she went out with 
her fiends, shopping and having so much fun.  She felt 
as if she and was leaving her Egypt for a day and 
meeting her own needs.  She could speak in ways that 
were understood, and relax without fear of conflict.  
She could laugh.  Her friends 'got it' -whatever 'it' 
was, they all understood each other.  Shequickly found 
herself feeling uplifted during that day's outing.  

Whether it is at this time of year when Passover comes, 
or any other time of year, we need to work toward our 
own personal freedom in every significant area of our 
lives. My friend left her own Egypt by maintaining a 
sense of her own needs and what made her joyful. In her 
case shopping, good conversation, and laughter with 
friends was a successful recipe for well-being.  

She knew she hadn't  reached  the promised land yet. 
She knew she had a difficult marriage to work on and/or 
ultimately leave,  but she found a way to at least 
temporarily release herself  and be was true to 

That's what THE ENCHANTED SELF is all about. If we can 
keep achieving positive states of mind, body and 
spirit, then we move closer to really working on the 
expression of our true selves, in ways that can only 
bring us personal satisfaction and be of positive 
benefit to others and the world at large!  

Share Your Enchantment!

Share your positive stories and questions about
enchantment with us and other Enchanted Self
readers around the globe! Our twice monthly e-zine
focuses on YOU and reaches a subscriber list of
almost 2,750 people from the US, Canada, Australia,
the United Kingdom, and many other countries!
Please send stories, comments, and questions to

Inspirational quote of the Month

"I am changed by you Forever, Let it be good"  

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, 
p.179 of The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy.

Blessing of the Month

May you always experience freedom in ways that bring 
you Delight! 


I am thrilled to announce that I now have an e-radio 
magazine, of course called THE ENCHANTED SELF. You can 
hear my monthly magazine by going to and look for THE ENCHANTED SELF.   
This month's edition is IT IS NEVER TOO LATE! Next week 
there will be a new edition entitled ACTS OF KINDNESS. I 
have on amazing guests, come and listen!

New Books and More!

I am thrilled to annouce the birth of two new Enchanted 
Self babies! Both are doing well and both are eager to 
come and play at your house! The first is Feel Good Stories, 
a book filled with laughter, wisdom and the human-side of 
life as only Bernice Becker, my wonderful Feel Good mom of 
85 can write for us! It is the first Enchanted Self Book that 
is not written by me! Will your wonderous thoughts be one 
of the future books?  
Anyway, come and look at her book, read an excerpt and 
hear her, by going to   
The second new baby, DELIGHT, is my baby-kicking up a 
storm as my journey of growth both emotional and spiritual 
is shared with you. And she isn't leaving until you come 
along! This is a CD-rom. You put the CD-rom in your 
computer-read my book, hear my voice, hear music and 
see wonderful art. This is a treat.  Please go to for 
more information. 
For all information on ENCHANTED SELF products go

E-group: Connect with others like you!

Find out "what's right with you--not what's
wrong!" Come chat with other "Enchanted Self-ers" 
Membership is free and you will have access to our 
on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and 
more.  It's a great way to connect with others who 
are exploring, creating and sharing their own 
positive and satisfying lives.  See you there!

Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many
enchanted moments!

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