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to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!
The following is what you will find in this month's issue.
Quote of the Month
Blessing of the Month
a good, honorable life. Then when
you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time."
attributed to the Dahli Lama
you have 20/20 foresight,
well as 20/20 hindsight,
may all of your life choices
sweetly in your heart
fondly in your memory.
Promise yourself to leave at least once a day.
Find three to five minutes for your personal escape.
Escape, replenish or refresh yourself and come back.
for Going Away:
Walk outside and look around at the sky, the flowers, and passersby.
Take three deep breaths and remind yourself about one special positive
trait you have.
Keep a pile of your favorite photographs, beautiful clippings from magazines, or
some favorite fragrances in your pocketbook or desk.
several minutes and enjoy your private stash.
Before you go back "in" remind yourself of one of the nicest
things that has ever happened to you.
Walk very slowly, breathing deeply as you walk.
Repeat a positive word or expression as you do this, such as "the
world is a lovely place" or "it feels good to love".
to customize your "leaving to come back" to be uniquely yours.
What may give me pleasure and a sense of escape might be meaningless to
you. That's why I only offer ideas.
You are the inventor of your personal escape hatch!
Have fun and come back refreshed! Please
feel free to share your escape plan with us by writing to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Dr. Barbara Becker
autumn is always a season of memory for most of us.
For myself not only do the turning leaves, the sight of a pumpkin, and
the fresh, crisp, clear smell of a cool day conjure up positive childhood
memories, but symbols tied into traditions also inspire me.
I'm talking about positive memories that were not personally mine, but
nevertheless I lived through by my grandmother telling me of her childhood.
every year I would make my grandmother tell me about the Sukkots they had when
she was growing up in
grandmother was the oldest of nine. They
lived in a lovely home that my great grandfather had built.
Her best friend built the house next door and it was a mirror image of my
great grandfather Isaac's home! Every
fall when it was time for Sukkot, an eight-day festival, my great grandfather
would roll back a tin ceiling that was attached to a pulley system in the
kitchen. Once that was rolled back,
branches were laid across the open space and the children would hang vegetables
and fruits from the branches, and so their Sukkah was created.
my grandmother it was a happy time, a week filled with treats and special
delicious foods, like honey and apples, and sharing her father's lap with one or
two other children. She always
looked happy when she talked about her Sukkah.
grew up in the modem era. My parents
moved away from these traditions and I hadn't even had the experience of walking
into a Sukkah. However, there was
something powerful and magnetic about my grandmother's memories.
In a sense they were transferred to me as beacons of light ... things I
had yet to experience.
a few years, now, our neighbors, the Ludlows, and our family have built a little
Sukkah. It has three sides with an
open roof. The boys go across to the
lake and find bamboo branches, and we string them up and then hang decorations.
We've had friends over, as well as my parents, and we sit outside in the
mellow autumn evenings.
day as the Sukkot was drawing to a close I sat alone one afternoon having a cup
of coffee in the Sukkah. The weather
was glorious and everything around me seemed to be in perfect harmony.
I felt so close to my grandmother and her memories.
Her positive memories had finally come to fruition.
I thought, "look grandma, I'm really sitting in a Sukkah!"
important to realize that we have access to many positive memories, and not only
those that we ourselves have experienced. Our
minds are magical and can take the happiness and stories of others and build
from them, if we give ourselves half a chance.
Take a few moments and, instead of perhaps feeling sad or disappointed
for something you never got to experience yourself, think about a wonderful
experience that someone else told you about.
See if you can let their positive memories find a home in your memory
sharing of positive memories!
colleague on The Enchanted Self project, Doreen Laperdon-Addison, and her
daughter visited the beach with a friend and her little boy.
Doreen had this to say about the experience: "It was a beautiful
sunny day with crisp air and blue skies. We
took off our shoes and put our feet in the water, which was cold, but
exhilarating. My friend and I sat on
the sand talking while the kids dug holes, made sand angels, and chased
seagulls. Watching them brought back
memories, not only from my youth, but from my teen and later years.
There was a feeling of freedom and exhilaration that only a child can
experience. I realized that I was in
the midst of an enchanted moment and, using all of my senses, I mentally
deposited these images and sensations into my memory bank for later use."
ordinary experience of going to the beach was transformed into a special memory
for Doreen. When she deposited it
into her memory bank, the experience was in an enhanced state, combining older
memories with positive aspects of her present life.
Enchanted memories are different from everyday memories because they have
a rich, layered quality derived from a variety of positive memories, sensory
images, and present day attitudes about the experiences themselves.
Not only are these memories joyful, they are also meaningful.
This exercise involves making positive deposits into your memory bank.
Over the next few days, stay alert to when you are in a good mood.
Try to use all of your senses to experience the present more fully,
especially when you become aware of a "potential deposit."
When the moment is right, ask yourself the following questions.
the time to describe them, perhaps writing them down or dictating them into a
tape recorder. Now gradually refocus
your mind on the present.
1: New Book on the Horizon: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is
new book will soon be published through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.
Within another month it will be available at all bookstores. I will
continue to keep you posted on how you will be able to purchase it through this
newsletter in the future. Information
will also be posted on my web site as it becomes available.
The following is a summary of what you will find in Recipes for
meet two street children from
is a breakthrough book, gracefully interweaving psychology/self-help with
inspiration. There's one basic recipe: combine unique positive thoughts and
feelings with positive actions. Do
this every day, and the rest will take care of itself--as if by magic!
a sneak peak at the book go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com.
are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through
our e-group at http://www.egroups.com/groups/encself.
Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The
Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.
I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect
with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a
positive and satisfying way of life. Join
us to find out "what's right with you -- not what's wrong!"
will soon be announcing on-line chats and other Enchanted Self events.
I will also send out a note to you explaining how you can get the most
out of all of the e-group features. Now
would be a great time for you to sign up and start to learn about how you can
benefit from joining our "enchanted" on-line community.
an "enchanting" month. I
wish you all many enchanted moments!
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