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ENCHANTMENT IN AN
E-MAIL - JULY 2002
Positive States of Mind and Body Again and Again"
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker
Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's
e-newsletter! The following is what
you will find in this month's issue.
For Summer's Pleasures ...
Plant three rows of peas:
Peace of mind
Peace of heart
Peace of soul
Plant four rows of squash:
Plant three rows of lettuce:
Lettuce be kind
Lettuce be patient
Lettuce really love one another
To complete your garden, you must plant some thyme:
Thyme for each other
Weed and water as necessary to enjoy the 'fruits' of your labor!
-- Adapted from Sephardic Image Magazine,
Replanting Earlier Seeds of Growth
by Dr. Barbara
When I was twenty I had the opportunity to spend the summer
Colonel Frangos was a retired military officer. He lived in the ancient section called Placa. He and his adult niece made us comfortable and entertained us. We were introduced to several other Greek families, including a family whom had a daughter our age, named Maria, and another family with two sons about our age.
Every night we met the other families around 8 or
at a local tavern for a leisurely dinner that lasted approximately three hours.
The evening was filled with laughter, story telling, good food, fresh
air, wonderful aromas, and music. There
was a sense of high spiritedness, which lifted my own spirits.
Here I was, a twenty-year old, without a single connection to
Remembering those balmy long summer evenings, there were several factors that helped me to feel so special. Of course, I was on vacation, but more importantly, I was with people who genuinely wanted to reach out and take their time getting to know visitors.
They lived a simple lifestyle that permitted them to converse, joke, and have fun. Not much money was spent, but they connected with each other. Colonel Frangos had no television and we did not go to the movies or to a nightclub. Rather, we sat in a simple open-air restaurant, hour upon hour, talking and singing. The delight came from being together and sharing time and space in a way that made everybody feel whole. Other factors, like taking an afternoon nap so that we were all fresh and ready to go at night, helped us to feel good.
With sadness, I left Maria, Colonel Frangos and the others. Even at twenty, I knew that they had introduced me to a type of shared time that I was hungry for. However, I did not know how to bring this pleasure back when I returned to my senior year in college.
I have searched for this shared time, a “communal moment of being,” all through my adulthood. Our culture has made it difficult. We eat on the run, talk on the run, and often try to communicate with televisions blasting in the background. Yet, when
I do achieve that sense of communal being, I feel hopeful about life. This experience is so intense and rewarding, other factors like job pressures or health concerns, take a back seat for the moment.
Having people visit on Friday night for a Shabbos meal has
been one of my gateways to this communal and sacred space.
No longer are we doing errands or watching television on Friday night.
Sitting leisurely in our own dining room, often with friends, no matter
how simple the meal, has put me back in to the mind set similar to what I
Sometimes it still surprises me that this space exists
Fortunately for all of us, life is a marvelous system of energy between people and events. My wish for you and for me is to allow ourselves the pleasure of building positive situations that allow renewal, fun, and a sense of shared belonging.
For 'heart' relief I try to remember the way I felt in
Remembering the actual details--letting them actually be in my mind/body system again--helps already to confirm to me that I still have all the talents and capacities necessary to find those wonderful sensations again.
I may be older and I may sometimes be sad, but my gift of enchantment to myself is to get back to living a life of well-being, where joy and connection are active components.
Does it take practice? Of course, but it is worth it to live a life that reflects ENCHANTMENT*.
*For those of you not that familiar with my expressions, the way I feel when I have this sense of shared communal being is what I call THE ENCHANTED SELF, a state of well being, joy, positive connection and meaning that I am able to achieve repeatedly. My mission in life is to share with you the knowledge, tools and inspiration necessary so that you can too!
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"To be a medicine man you have to experience everything, live life to the fullest. If you don't experience the human side of everything, how can you help teach or heal? To be a good medicine man, you've got to be humble. You've got to be lower than a worm and higher than an eagle."
-- Archie Fire Lame Deer, Lakota
Quoted from The Little Book of Native American Wisdom, compiled by Steven McFadden, Element Books, l994
Blessing of the
May you always have the capacity to be a medicine man or woman, heal, teach and experience fully every day of your life.
Announcement: Upcoming Chats!
The Enchanted Self has some exciting news! Soon we will be arranging chats at www.womensnet.net on a regular basis. This is a great (free) opportunity for you to join in and share your own enchanted stories, as well as learn more about the Enchanted Self concepts. The first chat is scheduled as follows:
Time: Eastern Standard Time
Topic: Looking for Joy in All the Right Places
Theme: A summer chat centered around healthy ways to replenish, vacation and/or create change and safe adventure in our lives.
More detailed information will be sent in a separate announcement.
"enchanting" month. I wish
you all many enchanted moments!
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