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"Achieving Positive States of Mind and Body Again and Again"       

Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein , Psychologist, Life Coach, and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R)       


Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find in this month's issue.

Recipe for Enchantment #12

Instead of always Giving,

Which most of us are so good at,

Try to Take

From those special to you.

Take their advice.

Take their recipes.

Listen to their concerns and opinions.

Ask for their wisdom.

Ask for a glimpse into their dreams and visions.

Take any presents they wish to give.

You won't be tired.

You will feel loved.

And your loved ones will be refreshed,

Knowing that you really know how to Share!


This RECIPE makes enough ENCHANTMENT to go all around!  

Quote of the Month  

Rabbi Salanter once said, " ... one needs to make three resolutions: Be careful not to become angry.  Do not become tired.  And do not feel a need to complete the work one is starting."   

Blessing of the Month  

May you always find ways to give and take from life and others so that you continue to overflow with Delight.  Then you certainly will have the blessing of happiness rather than anger, zest rather than fatigue, and you will be most satisfied with whatever you are able to do in your lifetime.  

Article: Your Personal Magic

by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

A few years ago Disney celebrated its 25th anniversary year.  Many of us who grew up with or have children who grew up with Mickey, Donald, Cinderella, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs probably remember the magic of watching these characters come to life in story books and movies.  

To my readers, I would like to say, "remember the magic" -- the magic that exists within you.  I call this your "personal magic." Discovering your personal magic is as wondrous as watching the magic performed by magicians.  The magician appears before us and eloquently recites a magic spell.  With a flick of the wrist, people, animals, and objects disappear, and then reappear.   

Actually, we are all magicians.  We can all conjure up magical moments from our past; and reinvent them in new and different ways that will have a positive and meaningful effect on our lives.  It is not as easy as when Mary Poppins reaches into her magic carpet bag and pulls out a spoonful of sugar.  Yet it is not hard.  It just takes some learning, effort, and time.  

For example, you may have positive memories relating to the summer season.  Perhaps you stayed with grandparents at the shore, collected shells and caught fireflies.  Or maybe you were the child who loved to fish or filled your days playing Monopoly on the porch with friends.  

Reinventing these magical moments may mean buying or planting flowers, taking a horticultural class, learning to play bridge, going camping or sailing, or even spraying scented fragrances in your home that remind you of your grandparents' garden.  

For some of us, finding our own personal magic is a more difficult pursuit.  It is similar to the magician who attempts to escape or separate from his or her locks and chains while trapped inside the confines of a small box.  Many of us have experienced dysfunction or pain in our lives that may impede or prevent us from achieving states of well-being.   

For instance, Cinderella came from a dysfunctional household.  Within all the turmoil and abuse her stepmother and stepsisters imposed upon her, she still managed to hold onto her hopes and dreams.  She could separate from her misery with the help of her animal friends, focusing on things that gave her pleasure and joy.  Meeting Prince Charming may not be high on your list of hopes and dreams, but having a fulfilling relationship with a spouse or friend may be.  

Sometimes it takes practice and a new way of focusing on ourselves to permit the experience of better times that feel great.  I believe in positive practice and admit freely that I still work on sifting through my past and finding what is right for me.  I also listen to my 'gut' and really focus on becoming aware of what feels right for me and what doesn't.  When I pass along an idea to you I can guarantee that I have tried it.  For example, below I suggest getting together with others.  I just went to lunch today with a woman whom I really admire and enjoy knowing that I needed her positive energies and connection. 

Yes, it took a bit of planning but I feel so good now!

Some Ideas for Personal Magic!

Some ideas to encourage your personal experience of Enchantment--that wonderful sense of well-being unique to YOU!  

These are all ways of recapturing the magic inside you.  Like the genie in Aladdin's Lamp, we too possess magic.  When we grant ourselves permission to remember the magic that exists within us, we are well on the road to discovering our ENCHANTED SELF.

Announcement 1: New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

My new book is now available through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.  You can also order the book from me via my web site and receive an autographed copy, complete with a free copy of my paper newsletter and bookmark.  I have also dropped the price to $9.95 plus $4.00 shipping and handling.  The book will be sent out within six to eight weeks.  Details are now posted on my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering1.htm.  For a sneak peak go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/newbook.htm.

Announcement 2: June Tele-Classes

I will be offering two free sessions on "Creating Your Own RECIPE FOR ENCHANTMENT".  Anyone interested should read a copy of my book, RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! which you can request from your local library, or order through www.amazon.com, www.1stbooks.com,  or my own web site or your local bookstore.

If you are interested in this free opportunity please send your name to Rebecca Trelfa at rtrelfa@virtual-asst.com.  She will be gathering names of those interested.  Once we have enough people we will be announcing class, dates, times, and details.   

Announcement 3: Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!

You are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through our e-group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.  Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.  I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a positive and satisfying way of life.  Join us to find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!"

Announcement 4: Enchanting Questions...

Perhaps you read last month's new bi-weekly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  Each month I will focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment and/or a reader's ideas on enchantment.

Please give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.  They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.


Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many enchanted moments!



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