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Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Psychologist, Life Coach, and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R)




Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find in this month's issue.

Recipe for Enchantment #34


A Recipe for Personal Wonderment and Thankfulness


I hope that you will read the following with delight.  Then use the knowledge to give yourself a big hug and a smile.  Also take an opportunity to give thanks to all that you are--FROM THE CELLULAR LEVEL UP!


Consider these facts about our bodies:


  1. The average heart beats one hundred thousand times a day, pumps six quarts of blood through, over ninety-six-thousand miles of blood vessels.

  2. The six quarts of blood are actually twenty-four trillion cells and make about four thousand trips throughout the body everyday.

  3. Seven million new blood cells are produced every second.

  4. With all the heat, it maintains constant temperature of 98.5 degrees.

  5. The skin has four million pores cooling the body.

  6. The brain is comprised of more than twenty-five billion cells.

  7. The wisdom of a single cell is said to exceed all the accumulated knowledge of the human race to date.  Yet, it cannot be seen without a microscope.  The cell is the site of more chemical reactions than all the chemical factories in the world combined.

  8. Smiling and laughing give your brain an “oxygen shower”.  When you smile, your facial muscles contract and you increase the blood flow to the brain.  Your tears of laughter at the end of a laughing spell actually relieve the build-up of blood supply to the brain!*


* All the above is quoted with some omissions from The Hesed Boomerang: How Acts of Kindness Can Enrich Your Life, page 142, by Jack Doueck, Yagdiyl Toral Publications: 1998


Go ahead and laugh and smile and don’t worry--if your brain needs help, your wonderful tears of laughter will come to the rescue!


Excerpts from THE ENCHANTRESS WITHIN(TM) Audio Show Featuring Guest Lisa Hammond, Founder of Femail Creations – Part Three of Three

By Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein


Thank you yet again for staying with me!  In the first parts of this article series I explained how negative messages from a woman’s childhood can affect her life.  We also found out how some amazing women found the energy and commitment to turn those negative messages into dreams and find enchantment in their lives.  Please enjoy the final piece of a script from an audio show in which I interviewed my guest Lisa Hammond.  Lisa found a way to make her dream a reality and put enchantment back into her own life. 




Dr. Holstein: So did somebody give you the courage or share with you some enthusiasm, for example, we were just on vacation and I met this woman who had become very successful as an author and she said that when she was traveling on some mountaintop somewhere she ran into somebody who took a liking to her and they chatted and you know it's just the right person saying "you know I think you have great ideas. I think you can do it. You can get in touch with me when you're back." And it started the whole process.


Linda: ... I think for me it wasn't so much for any one specific thing being said, I think it was

years and years of kind of feeling like I was waiting to take my turn. You know waiting for, you know, my children to be in school, waiting for you know, my home to be finished, waiting for all of these things to have every body else's life perfectly organized before I kind of dared to take my turn. And I had done for the first time in my life something that was purely selfish and had gone on a women's tour of the (goddess) sites of Europe ...


I was gone for a couple of weeks. And I think being on that tour gave me a new space with which to process all these thoughts. For the first time in my life, I wasn't worried about anyone, really, but myself. And I got to be in a space that women are rarely in of really being nurtured by other women and being on very sacred ground and not being in the chaos we all live with our car pools and dishes and laundry and jobs and everything else that goes in our women--in our lives, we're just busy as women.  ... I think that having some quiet time for myself was really instrumental and it was just a few months after returning from that trip that everything kind of bubbled to the surface and I just kind of had this deep knowing that the ducks are never in a row. If you wait for that perfect moment when it will be the least disruptive to everyone else's life to take your turn, you'll never do it.


And I had just a real sense of my daughter was about actually about ten at the time and I remember thinking I spent my whole life with her, you know, encouraging her to do anything she wants, telling her she can be anything she wants to be and I just had this real deep knowing that you know, I needed to walk my talk and you know so for her to really believe that be possible, I had to do more than just say that and I think I didn't want to set the example for her that it's okay for a woman to start her own business or it's a woman to follow her dreams as long as ... I just think there was just a real congealing of all these thoughts when they came together. And it just jelled. And I suddenly knew that I had to take my turn now.




I hope that you were inspired by Linda's realization that it was her turn now. She realized that she couldn't wait until everyone else's needs were met. She had to find a way to live out her dreams also. I hope you will or are taking your turn!  To listen to the full audio show and finish Linda’s story go THE ENCHANTRESS WITHIN on www.Ladybuglive.com and click on the show featuring guest, Lisa Hammond.


How to Order Books, Audio Tapes and more


How about some autographed copies of 'Recipes for Enchantment' with a free copy of The Enchanted Self's paper newsletter and a bookmark?  Perhaps you would be interested in my first book, 'The Enchanted Self', which is also available on audio tape?  Here are some ways to order:



Tip: When shopping online use keywords "recipes for enchantment" and "enchanted self" to locate the books.


E-group: Connect with others like you!


Find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!"  Come chat with other "Enchanted Self-ers" at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.  Membership is free and you will have access to our on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and more. It's a great way to connect with others who are exploring, creating and sharing their own positive and satisfying lives.  See you there!


Share Your Enchantment!


Share your positive stories and questions about enchantment with us and other Enchanted Self readers around the globe!  Our mid-month e-letter focuses on YOU and reaches a subscriber list of almost 700 people from the US, Canada, Australia, the United Kingdom, and many other countries!  Please send stories, comments, and questions to encself@aol.com.


Quote of the Month


A young person could no longer remember a special song that he used to hear in his own head.  It was so beautiful and he longed for the song.  He asked great composers to write beautiful songs for him, sure that he would find his song again.  They wrote beautiful music, but when played, none of the songs were ‘his’ song and he was still very sad….


- Part of a Midrash story told by Rabbi Yosif Carlbach in services in Ocean Township, New Jersey.


Blessing of the Month


May you never forget your own special song, but if you do, rather than searching the world for it, look back into yourself for your own special talents, passions and potential.  May you always come home to your own Song of the Soul and have pleasure in singing it!




There is a free gift available to you from my web site at www.enchantedself.com/ordering.htm.  Available for download is a picture of an enchantress in the background of a lovely poem that you can print out and enjoy.




Enchanted Self concepts are now available for you to read on Whispers, an online magazine for women.  To access my latest article and enjoy the site, simply copy and paste the following link into your browser window.




The Bright Side


When life is too much for you, visit my new column, 'A Happier Me' on the-bright-side.org.  Just copy and paste the following link into your browser window.






Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many enchanted moments!




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