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A
TASTE OF ENCHANTMENT: MAY 2001 SPECIAL EDITION
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker
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Welcome
to the mid-month publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!
Each month I will focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment
and/or a reader's ideas on enchantment.
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"Sometimes
my life seems so mundane. How can
find something within myself to get out of this rut?"
Answer
I
hope you will stay with me this week and the next two weeks to read about THE
THREE R'S: Remembering the Best, Restoring Yourself, and Rapture. In the
following article I will be talking specifically about remembering the best and
letting go of the rest. Then in the
next two mid-monthly issues I will spend time talking about restoring yourself,
and rapture.
RECIPE FOR ENCHANTMENT - THE THREE R's: Remembering the Best, Restoring Yourself, Rapture
By Dr.
Barbara Becker Holstein
In
today's world there are so many wonderful and inspirational books.
There are books filled with stories of Divine intervention, miracles
happening, special positive moments never to be forgotten and stories of
incredible coincidences. They help make us feel in harmony with the universe.
They help us fall asleep and have pleasant dreams. They often bring tears to our
eyes, reinforcing an inner sense of wisdom that all is right with the world even
when appearances say that is not so.
But
there is one thing often missing from these books. It is the mental and
emotional perspiration that we need to go through as we struggle to live a life
of meaning and joy. The inspiration
is there but it's the perspiration that most of us need to put into our daily
lives to create for ourselves lives of enchantment.
Because, enchantment for most of us, i.e., living a life of joy, a life
that reflects many states of well being, again and again, is hard work.
Certainly
we yearn for moments when the right thing happens at exactly the right time and
the world opens up for us, whether it's a lucky break, meeting the right life
partner or winning the lottery. And
we all need at least some of those moments.
But life, in reality, is filled with hundreds and thousands and probably
millions of minutes that are repetitive, boring or simply ordinary. They involve
getting up, brushing our teeth, driving to work safely, keeping a job, raising
children, fighting off a cold, etc. It
is all these times that THE ENCHANTED SELF focuses on.
These
are the moments that can be mundane, depressing, dull or can be captivating,
enlivening and filled with joy.
What
is the difference? The difference is
usually the perspiration. I mean the mental and emotional perspiration that is
involved in what I call the three R's of enchantment. Let's look at the first of
the three R's.
The
first is REMEMBERING THE BEST AND LETTING GO OF THE REST.
This is a critical component to general well being and a sense of
happiness on a daily basis. Most of
us have sustained loss and experienced pain. Yes, we've been hurt.
We've been short-changed by opportunities or other people.
Sometimes we've been stepped upon, left or forgotten.
If we
spend our daily life focusing on these disappointments then we cannot release
the positive energies we need to make the most of the present moment and to plan
for the future. Grudges, negative thinking, disappointments, and not forgiving
all get in the way of what can be done with the present. We need our psyche
energies to seize opportunities we can take advantage of.
This can't happen, if our energies are used up ruminating.
Besides,
there is beauty in our own story and most, if not all disappointments we've
experienced have strengthened us. Often,
we have even developed talents in coping with hard times that can reemerge in
ways to enhance pleasure and/or help us be of service to the world. For example,
the child that was neglected or yelled at has an opportunity to be particularly
kind to others as he or she gets older, maybe to teach others certain parenting
skills having known first hand how it feels on the other side.
I
hope you'll take some time this week to think about yourself and what talents
you may have developed during stressful times of your life. It may be the very
coping skills that you can use to make your life even more successful and
joyful.
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Please
give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.
They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.
You can also chat about this topic or create your own in The
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ANNOUNCEMENT:
UPCOMING TELECLASSES FOR JUNE
I
will be offering two free sessions on "Creating Your Own RECIPE FOR
ENCHANTMENT". Anyone interested
should read a copy of my book, RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient
is YOU! which you can request from your local library, or order through www.amazon.com,
www.1stbooks.com, or my own web site or
your local bookstore.
If
you are interested in this free opportunity please send your name to Rebecca
Trelfa at rtrelfa@virtual-asst.com.
She will be gathering names of those interested.
Once we have enough people we will be announcing class, dates, times, and
details.
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& REPRINTING
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2001 Copyright The Enchanted Self - All rights reserved.
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Barbara Becker
THE
ENCHANTED SELF(R)
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To
learn more about THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) - A State of Well Being, Joy, and
Happiness, please contact me or visit my web site.
phone:
877-B-JOYFUL
fax:
732-531-1201
e-mail:
encself@aol.com
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