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"Achieving Positive States of Mind and Body Again and Again"       

Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Psychologist, Life Coach, and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R)       


Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find in this month's issue.       

Quote of the Month

Maimonides once said, "Each person must see himself as though the entire world were held in balance and any deed he might do could tip the scales."

Blessing of the Month  

May each deed you do always tip the scales in favor of the world just being a little better place, filled with more love, kindness and positive actions! 

Recipe for Enchantment #11  

"Get into the habit of singing a tune.  It will give you new life and fill you with joy."

"Get into the habit of dancing.  It will displace depression and dispel hardship."  

-- Rebbe Nachman of Breslov (1720-1810)  

Take these simple ingredients and play with them.  If you don't wish to sing, listen to music that you love.  If you don't wish to dance, walk, bike, or move your body in ways that make sense to you and give you pleasure.

Above all, always add your unique ingredients--your touch of magic.

And above all else, be proud of your choices, they help to keep your in harmony with the universe and comfortable with yourself!

Article: Growing Optimistically

by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

Spring is here at last!  The season brings with it an opportunity for continued personal growth, stimulated by a sense of life renewing itself around us.  We see growth of every kind reflected in our environment in the spring.  Tiny seeds and bulbs blossom into colorful arrays of yellow, purple, and pink flowers and plants and the grass becomes green.  Suddenly one day we look at the trees and see soft green leaves.  Children seem to leap ahead in growth, outgrowing clothing and changing shoe sizes.  One day in the supermarket there are blueberries from central New Jersey , not flown in from California .  

For most of us, we find our senses heightened as warmer temperatures and refreshingly long days beckon us outdoors.  Whether sitting outside on a bench, a porch, taking a walk or playing a sport, we become attuned to all the smells, sounds and sights that we associate with spring and the way our bodies feel.  

Spring is a time for growing optimistically!  A sense of hope is in the air.  Hardly a person does not respond to positive feelings on certain spring days.  We all talk about spring fever.  If we look carefully at our reactions, we can see that THE ENCHANTED SELF is at work.  Outside, breathing the fresh spring air, it is easy to recall an earlier positive spring memory.  Perhaps it is remembering yourself racing your bicycle down a hill on a spring day, or coming home exhausted and hungry after playing baseball.  Maybe it's the exciting feeling of a crush in the seventh grade combined with smelling honeysuckle or lavender as you walked home together.  The images are boundless.  Even for those of us who experienced difficult growing up days, we still have positive memories often awakened by our senses this time of the year.  

If you let yourself enjoy each new spring day, by permitting yourself to "be there" rather than just "doing," then you can have the joy of not only being in the moment but also of rekindling wonderful earlier memories.  

In terms of growing optimistically, it is often these earlier memories that can serve as a jumping off point for your own positive growth.  You might remember how you felt roller-skating on a spring day.  Perhaps this memory was triggered by a walk you had yesterday.  How can you recapture the exuberance and enthusiasm you felt roller-skating many years ago?  Perhaps it is time to walk consistently everyday or buy a pair of roller blades and learn to use them.  Perhaps it is time to develop another form of exercise, or maybe you would rather have the pleasure of helping to teach a child or grandchild how to roller-skate.  The ways to reinvent your past into positive states of mind and body again and again are unique to you.  Don't give up your opportunities to grow optimistically in these glorious months.  

My message to you is to honor yourself, to honor your memories and let them pleasure you as you navigate through the spring months.  Try not to focus on the unpleasant aspects of earlier days.  Look for the "positive" memory traces associated with a smell, a taste, or an awareness that is rekindled by the blossoming of spring.  

Exercise: Recognize Your Personal Wisdom  

Scan your life for a time when you knew what you actually had to do and how to make it happen.  In this moment you knew at a very deep level that you had to seize the moment and actualize what was on your mind.

For example, when I was a child, I was once very sick with what turned out to be appendicitis.  I had to go through the whole night in pain before I could see a doctor.  Although it was a night of misery, I knew at some very deep level to remain quiet and to protect my body by not putting any heat on my stomach.

The next day after an emergency appendectomy, the doctor told my mother that if I had used heating pad or hot water, it would have exasperated an already ruptured appendicitis and I might have become critically ill. Certainly, I experienced first hand the important wisdom that lay at the core of my own sacred space!  

If you came up with some wisdom moments, mentally applaud yourself for them!  You are, after all, the hero or heroine of your own story!  If you didn't -- look for them. I know they will appear if you stay aware of your capacity for wisdom.

Announcement 1: New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

My new book is now available through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.  You can also order the book from me via my web site and receive an autographed copy, complete with a free copy of my paper newsletter and bookmark.  I have also dropped the price to $9.95 plus $4.00 shipping and handling.  The book will be sent out within six to eight weeks.  Details are now posted on my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering1.htm.  For a sneak peak go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/newbook.htm.

Announcement 2: Virtual Class  

Join me for a May tele-class on 'The Seven Gateways to Enchantment'.  For details on upcoming tele-class schedules and registration instructions head to http://www.enchantedself.com/teleclass.htm.  

Announcement 3: Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!

You are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through our e-group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.  Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.  I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a positive and satisfying way of life.  Join us to find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!"

Announcement 4: Enchanting Questions ...

Perhaps you read last month's new bi-weekly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  Each month I will focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment and/or a reader's ideas on enchantment. Please give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.  They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.  


Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many enchanted moments!     



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