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A Taste of Enchantment - March 16, 2004
"Dedicated to helping you find delight and feel good about yourself."
Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Psychologist, Happiness Coach,
and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF®
... to the mid-month publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter! This month, I would like to continue with my seven-part series on the Gateways to ENCHANTMENT. Over the next months, at least once a month, we will take a close look at each Gateway, learning how traveling through each one can lead to you living a life of delight, purpose and meaning while feeling good about yourself!
You will also find a special invitation to another free tele-class below, as well as information on our new enchanted purses!
Last time we explored the fourth Enchanted Self Gateway. If you need to read a copy of any of the previous gateways, you can read them from my web site by following this link: http://www.enchantedself.com/eletterarchives.htm
Gateway Five: Coming Home or Going Away, Finding Tribes in Which to Belong -
As we grow up, move away from school connections, and early jobs, often marry and have children, women frequently don't realize how critical it is to belong to groups. Depression feeds very quickly off of isolation. By nature most women not only share commonly in our care taking and in our concerns about others, but we enjoy and thrive when we're a part of the right groups. We want to be connected. We don't want to be isolated.
Choosing the right groups--the right tribes to belong to--is part of the dilemma and the wonderment of going through adult life. While our children don't always have much freedom in choosing what groups they belong to, sometimes they can be so greatly against an activity that we finally let them quit. We may let them leave the Girl Scouts or little league, or perhaps stop taking piano lessons, thus letting them make their own determinations.
But we, as adult women, can on the whole always have the privilege and luxury of picking our groups. It may well be time, as your children get older, to say "goodbye" forever to the PTA. It may be time to find a religious affiliation that is or is not connected to your heritage or what you were initially exposed to.
It may be time to find groups to belong to through technologies that didn't exist ten years ago. I have clients and friends who have found meaningful interest groups through the web. For example, a woman client now belongs to a quilting group that is worldwide. The result is that she not only has gained chat mates, but she has also been able to visit her new friends around the world and been able to act as hostess to many of these friends. As they say, "Who coulda thunk it?"
This is an extraordinary gateway, so take some time getting to know yourself, as you are now, and see the many ways how this can lead you to where you want to connect.
Please give us the pleasure of sharing your responses. They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter. You can also chat about this topic or create your own in The Enchanted Self e-group at the following URL: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself
(This is the LAST TIME in the foreseeable future that I will be giving this particular tele-class for FREE!)
Topic: The Seven Gateways to ENCHANTMENT
Dr. Holstein will draw on her tremendous knowledge
of positive psychology, while sharing stories from her treatment room and
her own journeys in personal growth. After the class you will be
entitled to a free gift and a special sale on her products!
Enchanted Purses for Wise, Wonderful Women
How to Order
Come to my order page for a delightful assortment of inspirational gift items for you and your loved ones for the holidays! Simply go to my ordering page on my site at www.enchantedself.com/ordering.htm
There you can also
order my new version of RECIPES
Free gifts are also available! Simply go to www.enchantedself.com/freeitems.htm
Forwarding & Reprinting
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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
THE ENCHANTED SELF®
I also encourage you to include this material in other publications, such as self-healing and professional psychology newsletters. However, I do ask that you contact me beforehand for permission and send a sample issue.
To learn more about THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) – An Educational Approach to Positive Psychology, please contact me or visit my web site.
Have an "enchanting" month. I wish you all many enchanted moments!