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"Achieving Positive States of Mind and Body Again and Again"

Produced by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein Psychologist, Life Coach, and Originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF(R)


Welcome to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  The following is what you will find in this month's issue.

Quote of the Month

Whatever the seasoning,

whatever the dish,

whatever the occasion,

do it generously and with love,

for that in the end is what the

shared experience of cooking and

eating is all about.

-- Elizabeth Rozin, American Writer

Let Elizabeth 's quote help us remember that the best in the shared experience of life is all about 'doing' generously and with love!

Blessing of the Month

May you always have the courage and heart to do good with or without clear reason.  That way you never have to wrestle with the traps of selfishness or greed!

Recipe for Enchantment #9

When you hear

Good news

Hold it tight.

Yet pass it on,

With all your might.

Create delight.

A smile here,

A smile there,

Good feelings bubbling everywhere!

Article: Fairy Tales Can Come True

by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In private moments we may find ourselves reflecting upon our lives, what could have been, and our true potential.  We often cast our hopes and dreams aside, and then experience feelings of disillusionment or emptiness.  We feel cheated of our inalienable right of happiness.

In this world of fast paced communications, it's very easy to become sidetracked when it comes to finding our Enchanted Self.  We are constantly bombarded with images from TV, radio, magazines and newspapers telling us what to wear, how we should look and smell, or what car to drive. 

According to these outside options, if we follow their plan then we should be happy, right?  Wrong!  When we place our lives in the hands of others we lose the magical, potential for happiness that exists within each of us.

How do we begin the process of looking within?  What do we look for?  First, we must understand that each of us has the ability to create our own happiness and joy.  Second, we need to realize that the most important tool we possess is our own unique memories. 

Memories don't just pop up out of nowhere; they sometimes have to be prodded or coaxed.  Think of them as children playing hide and seek, hoping and waiting to be discovered. 

How do we coax our memories out into the open?  Experiencing the moment can trigger positive memories from your past.  Learning to recognize your positive talents and strengths through memory retrieval is an important lease of the process toward discovering your Enchanted Self.

The third step is learning how to use positive memories to reinvent yourself.  Several years ago, while on vacation in Wales , I met Valerie Woodall.  Valerie had worked for an insurance company.  She held a high position and was responsible for many employees.  When her division closed, Valerie found herself out of a job. 

Valerie might have spent the following year searching for another job in the same field, but instead chose to make a career change.  She scanned her past for events that had brought her happiness, and went back to her love of fairy tales. 

When she was three years old her grandmother had given her a beautiful book of fairy tales (which she still has).  "I got this idea to have a fairy shop.  My husband thought I was crazy, that no one would come in.  Ignoring him, I found this little shop in a nice arcade and I have been swamped since we opened.  Who can resist buying a magic wand or a captured fairy in a bottle for a daughter, a niece or grandchild?"

Valerie had taken the fourth step in the process of discovering her Enchanted Self.  She had researched the practicality of her dream.  This takes lots of time and effort.  Needless to say, this paid off.  Valerie is a wonderful example of someone who scanned her own past, found her latent talents and potential and then did the hard work of researching and finding a way to re-invent herself.  As a result, she created a new career and a new passion for herself.  Most importantly, she had the courage to try.

It may take a single memory or a string of memories to give you the courage to reinvent yourself.  As in any worthwhile endeavor it takes practice, time and effort.  Remember that happiness starts within.

Exercise: Stimulating Your Positive Memories

Pick a favorite age.  It may have been when you were in high school or when you were a young child.  Make a list of your interest or hobbies, the things that you enjoyed doing the most.  They may include playing sports, reading detective novels, riding a bike, or picking up seashells at the beach. 

Make a second list describing your best traits or characteristics. Now imagine a person coming to see you for vocational or advocational advice.  This person has the same characteristics and interests as you.  This person is your present age. 

Brainstorm three ways that this person could utilize his/her interest and talents in new ways.   

  1. What research would this person need to do to make these changes?

  2. How did it feel giving this 'other' person advice? 

  3. Is there anything you advised that you might want to take-on for yourself? 

If the shoe fits ... enjoy it!

Announcement 1: New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!

My new book is now available through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.   You can also order the book from me via my web site and receive an autographed copy, complete with a free copy of my paper newsletter and bookmark.  I have also dropped the price to $9.95 plus $4.00 shipping and handling.  The book will be sent out within six to eight weeks.  Details are now posted on my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering1.htm.  For a sneak peak go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/newbook.htm.

Announcement 2: Free Virtual Class

Watch for your special invitation and further details on my free virtual class on 'The Seven Gateways to Enchantment' at the end of March.  I look forward to all of you joining me in this wonderful miracle of technology which will allow us to chat and learn together!  This free class will be followed up by two more classes in April at a reduced rate of $15.00 for both.

Announcement 3: Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!

You are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through our e-group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.  Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.  I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a positive and satisfying way of life.  Join us to find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!"

Announcement 4: Enchanting Questions ...

Perhaps you read last month's new bi-weekly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!  Each month I will focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment and/or a reader's ideas on enchantment.

Please give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.  They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.


Have an "enchanting" month.  I wish you all many enchanted moments!



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