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ENCHANTMENT
IN AN E-MAIL - MARCH 2001
Produced
by Dr. Barbara Becker
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Welcome
to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's e-newsletter!
The following is what you will find in this month's issue.
Quote
of the Month
Blessing
of the Month
Recipe
for Enchantment
Article:
Fairy Tales Can Come True
Exercise:
Stimulating Your Positive Memories
Announcement
1: How to
Order My New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!
Announcement
2: First
Virtual Class on The Seven Gateways to Enchantment will be coming up in
March. 1st class is free!
Announcement
3:
Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!
Announcement
4:
Enchanting Questions...
Quote
of the Month
Whatever
the seasoning,
whatever
the dish,
whatever
the occasion,
do
it generously and with love,
for
that in the end is what the
shared
experience of cooking and
eating
is all about.
--
Elizabeth Rozin, American Writer
Let
May
you always have the courage and heart to do good with or without clear reason.
That way you never have to wrestle with the traps of selfishness or
greed!
When
you hear
Good
news
Hold
it tight.
Yet
pass it on,
With
all your might.
Create
delight.
A
smile here,
A
smile there,
Good
feelings bubbling everywhere!
by
Dr. Barbara Becker
In
private moments we may find ourselves reflecting upon our lives, what could have
been, and our true potential. We
often cast our hopes and dreams aside, and then experience feelings of
disillusionment or emptiness. We
feel cheated of our inalienable right of happiness.
In
this world of fast paced communications, it's very easy to become sidetracked
when it comes to finding our Enchanted Self.
We are constantly bombarded with images from TV, radio, magazines and
newspapers telling us what to wear, how we should look and smell, or what car to
drive.
According
to these outside options, if we follow their plan then we should be happy,
right? Wrong!
When we place our lives in the hands of others we lose the magical,
potential for happiness that exists within each of us.
How
do we begin the process of looking within? What
do we look for? First, we must
understand that each of us has the ability to create our own happiness and joy.
Second, we need to realize that the most important tool we possess is our
own unique memories.
Memories
don't just pop up out of nowhere; they sometimes have to be prodded or coaxed.
Think of them as children playing hide and seek, hoping and waiting to be
discovered.
How
do we coax our memories out into the open? Experiencing
the moment can trigger positive memories from your past.
Learning to recognize your positive talents and strengths through memory
retrieval is an important lease of the process toward discovering your Enchanted
Self.
The
third step is learning how to use positive memories to reinvent yourself.
Several years ago, while on vacation in
Valerie
might have spent the following year searching for another job in the same field,
but instead chose to make a career change. She
scanned her past for events that had brought her happiness, and went back to her
love of fairy tales.
When
she was three years old her grandmother had given her a beautiful book of fairy
tales (which she still has). "I
got this idea to have a fairy shop. My
husband thought I was crazy, that no one would come in.
Ignoring him, I found this little shop in a nice arcade and I have been
swamped since we opened. Who can
resist buying a magic wand or a captured fairy in a bottle for a daughter, a
niece or grandchild?"
Valerie
had taken the fourth step in the process of discovering her Enchanted Self.
She had researched the practicality of her dream.
This takes lots of time and effort. Needless
to say, this paid off. Valerie is a
wonderful example of someone who scanned her own past, found her latent talents
and potential and then did the hard work of researching and finding a way to
re-invent herself. As a result, she
created a new career and a new passion for herself.
Most importantly, she had the courage to try.
It
may take a single memory or a string of memories to give you the courage to
reinvent yourself. As in any
worthwhile endeavor it takes practice, time and effort.
Remember that happiness starts within.
Pick
a favorite age. It may have been
when you were in high school or when you were a young child.
Make a list of your interest or hobbies, the things that you enjoyed
doing the most. They may include
playing sports, reading detective novels, riding a bike, or picking up seashells
at the beach.
Make
a second list describing your best traits or characteristics. Now imagine a
person coming to see you for vocational or advocational advice.
This person has the same characteristics and interests as you.
This person is your present age.
Brainstorm
three ways that this person could utilize his/her interest and talents in new
ways.
What
research would this person need to do to make these changes?
How
did it feel giving this 'other' person advice?
Is
there anything you advised that you might want to take-on for yourself?
If
the shoe fits ... enjoy it!
Announcement
1: New Book: RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT, The Secret Ingredient is YOU!
My
new book is now available through First Books Library at http://www.1stbooks.com.
You can also order the book from me via my web site and receive an
autographed copy, complete with a free copy of my paper newsletter and bookmark.
I have also dropped the price to $9.95 plus $4.00 shipping and handling.
The book will be sent out within six to eight weeks.
Details are now posted on my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering1.htm.
For a sneak peak go to my web site at http://www.enchantedself.com/newbook.htm.
Announcement
2: Free Virtual Class
Watch
for your special invitation and further details on my free virtual class on 'The
Seven Gateways to Enchantment' at the end of March.
I look forward to all of you joining me in this wonderful miracle of
technology which will allow us to chat and learn together!
This free class will be followed up by two more classes in April at a
reduced rate of $15.00 for both.
Announcement
3: Enchanted Self E-group is Growing!
You
are invited to become an active participant in Enchanted Self activities through
our e-group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself.
Once you sign up and become a member you will have access to The
Enchanted Self on-line calendar, message board, chat room, and much more.
I encourage you to take advantage of this free opportunity to connect
with myself and other Enchanted Self members, as we explore the joys of a
positive and satisfying way of life. Join
us to find out "what's right with you--not what's wrong!"
Announcement 4: Enchanting Questions ...
Perhaps
you read last month's new bi-weekly publication of The Enchanted Self's
e-newsletter! Each month I will
focus on (and respond to) a question about enchantment and/or a reader's ideas
on enchantment.
Please
give us the pleasure of sharing your responses.
They may be posted on the web site or in future issues of the newsletter.
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Have
an "enchanting" month. I
wish you all many enchanted moments!
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(C)
2001 Copyright The Enchanted Self - All rights reserved.
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The Enchanted Self Newsletter is copyrighted but may be quoted,
reprinted, or distributed in whole or part without prior permission, provided
the content is not changed and attribution is given including:
Dr.
Barbara Becker
THE
ENCHANTED SELF(R)
I
also encourage you to include this material in other publications, such as
self-healing and professional psychology newsletters. However, I do ask that you
contact me beforehand for permission and send a sample issue.
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To
learn more about THE ENCHANTED SELF(R) - A State of Well Being, Joy, and
Happiness, please contact me or visit my web site.
phone:
877-B-JOYFUL
fax:
732-531-1201
e-mail:
encself@aol.com
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