to the monthly publication of The Enchanted Self's newsletter! The
following is what you will find in this month's
Recipe for Enchantment
Article: Gateway Two: Another Look at Entering the Enchanted Gateways -
The Seven Gateways to Enchantment
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Books, Audio Tapes and more
Connect with others like you!
Share Your Enchantment!
Quote of the Month
Blessing of the Month
You Can Always Add a Blessing to Someone's Life
Once a poor man was refreshed by a wonderful tree. He was hungry and ate a
juicy apple from the tree. Now he was tired and the tree helped keep
him cool as he slept. When he woke up, he spoke to the tree. "I want to
repay you in some way for helping me. But I have nothing! What can I do?"
He thought for a moment and an idea floated into his mind. "I could give
you a blessing! But you don't need long life, you couldn't be this big
without having lived many, many years already. I can't bless you with
juicy ripe fruit, as you have an abundance of that already. Wait, I have
it. I bless you that all the seeds from you will find
homes in the rich soil and grow into wonderful trees, just as splendid as
And so the man went on his way, feeling satisfied and happy. As he looked
back he saw the tree gently waving to him and all was good!
Yes, there is a recipe for enchantment in the above story. The recipe is
simply to bless others, perhaps to thank them, perhaps just to warm their
hearts. Your words can give hope and encouragement. You don't
formally need to use the word blessing to do just that! For instance: 'May
you do well on your job interviews!' 'May you get a good report from the
doctor.' 'Have a great vacation and come
back refreshed.' 'I'm looking forward to a great report on your dinner
party. Your food always tastes so good.'
For this recipe to really simmer all month, keep stirring the pot by
adding in one new blessing a day! A blessing gets to be added in once you
have said it to someone.
May your pot fill to the top with good feelings, warmth and delight! Take
full servings often as you can easily fill the pot back up--you know the
The story was loosely adapted from a tale, Say Thank You With A Blessing.
p. 103, from the book, The Bird of Paradise and Other Sabbath Stories by
Steven M. Rosman, UAHC Press, New York, New York.
Gateway Two: Another Look at Entering the
Enchanted Gateways - Part Two
By Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Last time we looked at the first section in this Gateway: Gateway Two:
Falling in Love with Ourselves. This time we will follow up with a case
vignette and positive activity for you. If you need to go back and read
the first part of this Gateway, or start with Gateway One, please visit
the following page on my web site:
Charlotte was constantly demeaned and criticized by her husband. Once she
fell in love with herself, she had the courage to no longer put up with
his attacks. When he became verbally abusive, she left the house and
indicated that if he was not in a better mood and could not behave more
appropriately when she returned home, she would
leave for good.
Her husband slowly mended his ways and became less
verbally inappropriate as time went on. And because Charlotte had learned
to love herself, she found that she was able to do what she needed to do
for herself. This included becoming more independent and spending time
away from her husband.
Perhaps another woman would have left, but for her it made sense to build
a world that still included him, but also included her own time for
herself—for sports, spas, individual time with her grandchildren, time to
enjoy music, time alone with women friends.
Although she stayed, she had become strong. Her love of herself made her
conceivably able to leave at any point in time if she was not treated
appropriately. Her husband realized this, and did not test the waters too
deeply. A satisfactory conclusion had been reached, due to Charlotte's
Positive Activity for You
Think about the story of your life. Think about it in positive terms where
every hurdle ultimately resulted in some wisdom or in a turn in the road
which had some good in it. Start to tell the story of your life to
yourself, making yourself the heroine, and remember to make yourself a
lovable heroine. You may find yourself going over the same material that
we've talked about before, merely
giving it a different twist to more clearly identify your talents,
strengths and potential.
Enjoy the positive story of your life. Discover
how special you really are.
Topic: The Seven Gateways to ENCHANTMENT
Host: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Date: February 6, 2004
Time: 3:00 pm EST
This free tele-class will cover practical ways to begin to walk through
each Enchanted Gateway so that you can flourish in mind, body and spirit!
You will begin the process by …
Getting to know yourself in positive ways–What’s
right about yourself, not wrong!
Beginning to fall in love with
yourself–Appreciating the story of your own life and seeing your own
talents and potential!
Better meeting your needs–Learning how to
negotiate successfully for what you want.
Replenishing more often–Rediscovering what gives
you pleasure and joy and insisting on building it in.
Fighting the blues successfully–Not isolating,
finding community to belong to that fits who you are.
Sharing wisdom–Recognizing the teacher in each of
us and giving and receiving freely knowledge.
Taking positive action–Having the courage to put
positive plans into action, not just your imagination.
Dr. Holstein will draw on her tremendous knowledge
of positive psychology, while sharing stories from her treatment room and
her own journeys in personal growth.
To register for this class send an e-mail response to
firstname.lastname@example.org putting in the
subject line 'free teleclass.' You will be mailed back call in
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Quote of the Month
"People carry around yesterday's disappointments and tomorrow's worries
like weights around their necks. Learn to let go of them, and fill your
heart with contentment of the present."
-- Rabbi Hadar Margolin
Blessing of the
May you have the peace of mind to let go of yesterday's
disappointments and tomorrow's worries and truly enjoy today. May this
very moment be a blessing as your own song bursts through, bubbling with
joy and harmonizing with all around you.
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many enchanted moments!
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