What are the tools to get to THE ENCHANTED SELF® part of ourselves? What skills do we need in order to find happiness that is unique and sustainable for each person?
I suggest you enter the Seven Gateways of Happiness that go with The Enchanted Self and find the tools waiting for you at each Gateway. Let’s look at the first Gateway:
First Gateway: Honoring what is Right about Ourselves Rather Than What is Wrong
As women, we’re all experts in identifying what is wrong with ourselves. We can probably quickly make up a long list, detailing what is wrong in our lives. However, it’s a lot harder to get in touch with what is right. We need to know ourselves in positive ways. We need to learn how to honor our talents, strengths, even our coping skills which serve us so well. And most important, we need to treasure and enjoy our potential.
These parts of us, if not honored, identified and talked about both to ourselves and to others, will lose their power. We have to keep igniting them. We need to get to know ourselves in ways that emphasize the heroic, strong parts of ourselves. This means using our memories in very different ways from what we’ve been accustomed to. It means searching through our history to find our talents, strengths and even lost potential, even if we have to sort through pounds of dysfunction. It means searching our past for what is right about ourselves, not for what is wrong. Each of us is capable of doing the above. For a starter, take a sheet of paper and list some of your talents, strengths and potential from several different times in your life. Look for realistic items, not ones that would get you into the Olympics. For example, let’s say you pick the seventh grade to look at. Maybe you were good at making friends, a B student and had the potential to be a good pianist if you had a chance. These are realistic talents, strengths and potential.
See what you’ll do with your list in PART TWO of ENCHANTED SELF PART OF OURSELVES THE ENCHANTED SELF PART OF OURSELVES-FIND IT!