I was with a young woman who had on the most adorable sandals. They had a cute wedge hell and pretty straps and I just felt good looking at her move in them. I said to her, "Wow, I love your shoes. They are so cute." She said, "I always feel happy when I wear these shoes. I wore them three times to the islands and everytime had a great vaction. Just wearing them brings me back to those great times!"
I said to her that is exactly what The Enchanted Self is all about-recognizing what makes us happy and making sure we bring it into our lives again and again. In her case she used her positive memories and tied them to a physical object-her shoes. But even if the shoes no longer existed, she could still use her memory and remember them and get a good feeling. I talk all about these ways to happiness in my first book, THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, and on my website, www.enchantedself.com
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com