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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Family Relationship Award of Excellence
My Books
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!
Following on the heels of the best-selling book, The Truth, SECRETS is the continuing diary of a girl moving into her teen-age years. The Girl has plenty to fill her journal. The pages reveal a new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, a new guy and a new set of issues to face. Share the secret world of an almost-teen as she learns which secrets to share and which to keep to herself.
Download an excerpt of Secrets here.
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Having just the right ingredients
Often people think of enchantment as being under a magical spell. When you think of magic you may even imagine putting together a potion that will create a desired spell. How long the spell will last can be a question for magicians or it may be an answer you may be able to answer yourself.
Like all good things you need to have the right ingredients to make it work. A great meal, a fantastic desert and many more treats requires the right balance. Having the right ingredients is not only for food but rather for anything we choose to do in life.
What does the perfect enchantment require? A pinch of this and a dash of that. A hint of this and a tad of that. Let’s not forget that all ingredients should be stirred. When we are able to mix all of the key elements and ingredients we want to use we find that even the smallest amounts of something can make everything else seem amazing.
What are some of the ingredients you use for your enchantment?
Always reaching for that rising star
Isn’t life just grand? If you are like most ordinary people that is not what you say each day. Yes. Life is grand but there are many obstacles that come in our way for letting us see how truly wonderful life really is.
You and I and other people you know have talents. Have you ever heard someone say to someone : “ I didn’t know you could …. How come you never talked about it or have done anything with your talent of….?” Where do our hidden talents remain when we are not using them? Better yet, why are they in hiding?
We are not here to answer the question but rather look for solutions. Do we enjoy dancing, baking, painting and so many other creative ways to express who we truly love to be? Of course! Then what we have to do is find a way to stay in this frame of mind for longer periods rather than just short glimpses of our reality.
Think about it-What is it that enabled you this time to go out of your zone to be and become or do what you truly love to do? Close your eyes… imagine a space that this can be your everyday reality…
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