Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Seven Gateways to Happiness for Us Women!
1. Discover and honor your talents, strengths, coping skills and potential
2. Love the story of your live and find ways to fall in love with who you are
3. Learn how to get your needs met
4. Take time to replenish, to enjoy life, and to find meaning and purpose everyday
5. Belong and don't isolate
6. Be a mentor and find mentors
7. Live generously. Do positive actions and good deeds
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The Happiness for Women Only! series focuses on different age groups as seen below. We take a look at happiness as viewed through the lenses of The Seven Gateways to Happiness.
Dr. Barbara hosts this series, accompanied by her two outstanding guests: Dr. Sandra Prince-Embury, nationally know resiliency expert and author of The Resiliency Scales for Children and Adolescents and Martha Trowbridge, author of books on Inspiration For Women in Crisis.
"Getting to The Truth and More!" (20-35)
"Women and Wisdom Gathering" (Ages 36-49)
"Welcome the Enchanted AARP Woman!" (Ages 50 plus)
A wonderful discussion for all age groups!
My Books
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
New Year Resolution: Be True to Yourself and Help Your Daughter to Be True to Herself
My wish for you on New Year’s Eve is that the one resolution you will really keep this year, even more than your diet, is to be true to yourself. And if you have a daughter, help and encourage her to be true to herself. I wrote The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) to help girls and their moms not get caught in some of the social and emotional vices that have plagued women for centuries. It is easy for us to loose some of the best of ourselves. We have to always be vigilent. We give so much of ourselves, but not always do we give enough to ourselves. The biggest gift that a ten year old can receive from you is the sense that she is amazing. She is gifted, smart, funny, wise, inventive, capable and simply wonderful. And the biggget gift you can give yourself is permission to get back to the energy inside of yourself that is just as marvelous. You will find yourself living out a true recipe for happiness.
May you and your daughter(s) be blessed in 2009 in truly seeing and loving the best in yourselves.
Finding Joy after Relationships Fail
Maureen states, “I didn’t want the book to end. I want to find to what happens to the girl!”
Come and listen to this lively conversation about the psychology behind The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything).
Archives: Finding Joy after Relationships Fail with Maureen Staiano – Contact Talk Radio
Lighting Your Way to the New Year
May your new year be blessed with energy, health, wealth and comforts galore. May you treasure every good day and recover quickly from every bad day. May the good days far outweigh the bad.
~ Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
The Truth is Resiliency is Important in Growing Up! Dr.Prince-Embury shares this knowledge with Dr. Holstein on archived podcast shows, Happiness for Women Only and Kids, Tweens and Teens, A positive psychologist looks at all three
One reason I wrote The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) is to show girls how resilient they naturally are. To learn to recognize their coping powers and their abilities to overcome obstacles and have fun in the process, by identifying with the girl in the book. As she says on page 19: “I know a million ways to have fun. I better know they because I feel so rotten when I’m picked last for kickball…”
The Girl is a great example of the capacities of the human spirit to learn to make the most of circumstances. I’m pleased to have an expert in the field of resiliency to talk with us also on the topic.
Dr. Sandra Prince Embury, nationally know expert on resiliency has this to say about resiliency:
“The definition of resiliency is the qualities in the child, teenager or adult that allow them to face adversities and social pressures in a way that they can recover from, ride through, maintain functioning, and in some cases, grow, and function even better. And what I consider the underpinnings of resiliency are basically core aspects of development.
The reason that I’m focusing on that right now, especially in children and adolescents, is that in society, we have had to face a lot of adversity, perhaps more adversity than in the past, and there is more of a focus on preparing our youth for adversity. Of course, women are a special group in that there are special forces on girls and women that need to be dealt with.
But basically, it’s about surviving and dealing with adversity and maintaining your functioning and growing, even in the face of adversity.”
You can follow Dr. Sandra Prince- Embury by looking for her name in my podcast archives housed on www.enchantedself.com. She has often been my guest on my two recent radio shows: Happiness for Women Only and Kids, Tweens and Teens, a Positive Psychologist looks at all Three.
Tell me The Truth, what do you want in the second edition of THE TRUTH (I'm a girl, I'm smart and I know everything)?
It really is true. There is plenty of room and a real need for fiction books for girls, tweens and teens that incorporate positive psychology principles. And I’m thrilled that I wrote the first book in this new field. In fact, the book is selling so fast that I am already thinking about reprinting. The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) was #6 in the top 100 on Amazon today in the category of BEING A TEEN. Thanks to everyone who helped with that rank by buying the book!
So, I thought you might want to share some ideas with me. In the next edition, would you like: 1. more secret diary entries that have never been public before? 2. Pages from the second book in the series where the girl is a year older? and/or 3. More questions and activities you can do after you read the book? Please let me know what you would prefer.
The Truth is that The Truth (I'm a girl, I'm smart and I know everything) contains within it The Enchanted Self.
The Truth is that The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything), my new book, contains within it the same truths that make up The Enchanted Self. At first you might not believe that, as my first book The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy was for women and clinicians. This book is for girls, tweens, teens and moms and women in general. Yet the premise of both books is the same. We must hold on to the best of ourselves as we go through life’s transitions. We must find ways through recognizing what gives us pleasure and what is meaningful to us to hold on to our talents, strengths and potential. A girl of 11 is stuggling to hold on to the best of herself as she moves into her teens. A woman of 50 is still figuring out hold to hold on to the best of herself as she moves into being a young senior. The challenges are life long.
Of course, recently, I’ve been talking so much about my new book and girls and moms. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, so I thought all of you would enjoy seeing me in action with my book. Here I am with the girls from the Mother-Daughter Book Club in Manasquan, New Jersey.
One of the girls, April, had read my book The Truth (I’m a girl, I’m smart and I know everything) this summer and recommended the book. As you can see by our smiling faces, it was a wonderful night. I was so happy that all the mothers and daughters had read the book and were ready to discuss school, social, family and communication issues brought up in the book.
See the paper heart necklaces I am wearing? Each of them has on it a question that April had prepared so we would have plenty to talk about. Here is a sample of several of the questions: “What are five things you promise to do when you grow up? How would you react if your mom told you you’re too young for a bra but you wanted one? Do you think teachers have an affect on kids emotions? explain…”
The more I work with The Truth I realize how different from other books it is as an educational and motivational tool. The kids fall in love with the girl who keeps such a truthful diary. They read it as fiction. But it opens up so many doors for education, communication and helping girls develop to their true potential. That night the mothers, girls and I could have talked for hours and hours. And that makes sense as the topic is universal.
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