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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Family Relationship Award of Excellence
My Books
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!
Following on the heels of the best-selling book, The Truth, SECRETS is the continuing diary of a girl moving into her teen-age years. The Girl has plenty to fill her journal. The pages reveal a new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, a new guy and a new set of issues to face. Share the secret world of an almost-teen as she learns which secrets to share and which to keep to herself.
Download an excerpt of Secrets here.
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein talks about Women and Girls and Personal Happiness
Adult women have much better capacities for personal happiness than has been appreciated or documented by the public, by mental health professionals, or by the women themselves. This capacity is critical to women. It gives women a way to re-fuel and replenish, to experience joy. It is the gateway for women to come into their own, to utilize her talents, abilities, coping skills, strengths and potential.
.And going back to girls, we must always remember that any messages dissonant with a girl’s sense of herself can interrupt her sense of well-being. Likewise, moments of well-being and of feeling empowered can help a girl soar and can later be recaptured to help the woman she has become experience joy and successful living.
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
The Truth, I’m a girl, I’m Smart and I Know Everything-Secret Entry never seen before and with a Chinese translation.
It is almost Valentine’s Day and the girl in my new book is just as excited as we all are about getting a Valentine. She is soooo in love with Paul, so this is really a big day for her. Will he remember? This is one of the secret passages from the book that is not in either the Mother or Daughter Editions of the Book. This is a secret passage that will appear in the Chinese Version, translated by Professor Chen Likai. So just for you-here it is-your special Valentine!
Anyone who can successfully translate the passage from Chinese back to English should write to me at encself@aol.com with the translation, your full name and address. Give me your phone number and once I speak to you, I’ll send you as a prize an Enchanted Self Truth necklace just for you! Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
February 14
Today was Valentine’s Day. I was so worried. Valentine’s Day is almost the worst day of the year for me. That’s because the day can be terrible. There is nothing worse in the world than not getting enough Valentine’s in class. And being in love makes it even worse. All I could think about last night lying in bed was what if Paul doesn’t give me a Valentine? How could I stand it?
I was worried all the way to school. I worked all last night on my Valentine’s. I made one for each kid in the class. I made Paul’s just a tiny bit bigger than the other’s. Only I would know that I had made his special. So it was my secret.
Miss Shannon had really fixed up our classroom so pretty. There were hearts pinned up all over the room and she had even put up streamers. I think she must really like Valentine’s Day. We still had to do all of our schoolwork. Then at 2:00 the class mother dropped off the cupcakes and ice creams and candy. Then we started our Valentine’s Day party. There was a giant box up on the front table with a slot in the top. That’s where we put all of our Valentine’s to be delivered.
Angela, Fred and Stacey got to empty the box and deliver the Valentine’s while we all ate our cupcakes and ice creams. I was getting a lot of Valentine’s. I kept looking at Paul. He didn’t look back. He was eating. What was he thinking?
Everyone was laughing and having a good time. Even Miss Shannon was smiling as she opened all the Valentine’s that we gave her. I started to open mine. Nothing from Paul. Nothing. Nothing.
I was feeling a little sick. My heart was pounding. This was the last envelope. It was from Paul! My life was saved. Guess what it said?
“Will you be my Valentine?”
Oh, yes, Paul! I will be your Valentine! The day was perfect.
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Chinese New Year Evokes Good Memories!
Wisdom from Eva Longoria Parker
I heard Eva Longoria Parker say on morning TV that sometimes "playing in a different sandbox for awhile" is so important. In fact, I would say, as a positive psychologist, that often it is just what the ‘Doctor’ ordered. It helps us get our minds off of ourselves. It gives us a chance to meet new playmates and play with different toys. After all, the new sandbox might just have the perfect sifter and/or the great new friend with red hair and freckles. This is not silly talk. We never outgrow our need for change and diversion!
May you be blessed with the capacity to always find a new suitable sandbox to play in, when you need it!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
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