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Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self. She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981.
Family Relationship Award of Excellence
My Books
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I’ll Tell You Mine…maybe!
Following on the heels of the best-selling book, The Truth, SECRETS is the continuing diary of a girl moving into her teen-age years. The Girl has plenty to fill her journal. The pages reveal a new school, a new baby in the family, new friends, a new guy and a new set of issues to face. Share the secret world of an almost-teen as she learns which secrets to share and which to keep to herself.
Download an excerpt of Secrets here.
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
In the mothers' and daughters' version, this girl encapsulates the spark and energy that your daughter has inside of her, and that you had inside of yourself as a girl. It is this special capacity for fun and wisdom that we need to protect in our girls and get back to ourselves!
Let's rejoice in the girl inside of ourselves. Let's give courage and affirmation to our daughters and granddaughters so they know from the inside out, it is ok, in fact, essential to keep her alive, as they grow up.
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything.
The adult women's version is a delightful, humorous secret diary, written by a girl who is 10-11 years of age. She is wise and yet so innocent. She makes us cry and laugh and remember ourselves. Behind this very easy read is the psychological message to the women reading THE TRUTH that they can and must recapture the fire and passion of their girlhoods not only for themselves to flourish and be happy, but for the next generation to also have the gifts of good emotional and spiritual health.
This book is filled with emotional and delightful reminiscences that will charm you even as you are inspired to begin thinking of your own ways to bring delight into your hearts.
A collection of stories that is guaranteed to make you Feel Good. Click on the title to find out about the free gifts you will receive or here to learn more about the stories.
Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! is a culmination of over ten years of work and research in the field of personal enchantment by Dr. Barbara. She teaches us how to recall positive memories, regardless of our history, recognize our potential, and bring into our lives more of what gives us pleasure and joy. This is all combined with daily positive actions.
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
Through my work as a therapist, I have become concerned that we do not keep clearly enough how to reclaim what is positive about ourselves. This led me to write my book, The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy, published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Press. This book was probably the first and only book for mental health care providers and the interested public, to lay out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Heart & Soul Magazine, “What is Happy?” by Sharee Crute
Life better with dose of happiness
"…Falling in love with life is like falling in love with that one and only sweetheart.
Life is that sweetheart. Spread that enthusiasm. It is never wasted. Be a world changer.
Look on the bright side. Know you are a unique person with a special purpose in life.
Each day is an opportunity to spread sunshine to everyone you meet.
If you do that you will not only “hear the music” but you will be in love with life!" Jane Clayton, Religion Columnist, October 25, 2007
‘Opinion’ Archives
Interesting People
What makes some people so interesting? It’s their childlike vitality, sense of wonder, and their playfulness. It’s the way they inhale life. Anonymous
May you get very good at inhaling life!
~ Dr. Barbara
A Blessing in a Tea Bag
A Play-date with Enchantment Using the Past to Your Pleasurable Advantage
A Play-date With Enchantment Using the Past to Your Pleasurable Advantage
Here is an exercise that can help you to retrieve positive images and sensations focusing on one or more of your senses. Begin by closing your eyes and listening to the sounds around you. Listen for a few minutes. When you feel drawn to a particular sound, stay with it. Allow yourself to mentally wonder remembering to focus on the positive. When you are ready, open your eyes and find an object to hold in your hands, such as an article of clothing. Close your eyes and explore the object, listen to the sounds around you. What positive memories and experiences are evoked by focusing on two of your senses, i.e. touch and hearing. Try this exercise mixing and matching your other senses
This is an exericse from one of my many articles about exploring your Enchanted Self.
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, Positive Psychologist and Happiness Coach, www.enchantedself.com
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein shares another recipe for Enchantment
In a little book, A Kindness A Day, I found the following quote:
Don’t honk your
horn unnecessarily
while driving.
Now at first you might not think this is a Recipe for Enchantment. But it really is. Can you imagine a world with less loud harsh, unexpected noises? Your own emotions and thoughts would not be suddenly jarred. Your adrenalin wouldn’t start to flow for now reason. The day could continue its lovely melody and even the birds along your way would be able to sing without needless interuption. Everything and everyone would be happier.
Remember, every improvement we make creates more harmony in the world and inside of ourselves. So the above certainly deserves to be a Recipe for Enchantment.
Happy Driving!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
A Contest Looking for Your Memories of The Truth when You Were a Kid
I’m so excited to talk to you today about new Enchanted Self developments. For instance, do you know I have a new book? Lots of you know, but many do not know. The title, THE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything! I hope wets your appetite. I have a wonderful contest going where I’m giving away at least five copies of my new book to women who write in to me and share their memories from girlhood about knowing The Truth. Do you have a memory? If can read excerpts from my book on my site and that will help get your memory jogging!
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
Treasures in One’s Home-Look to the Elderly
"A old woman in a house
Is a treasure in a house."
from the Talmud
What a simple Recipe for Happiness, that so many of us no longer know how to cook up in our culture! In order to achieve Happiness and what I call the Enchanted Self capacity, one must not throw away the valuable ingredients. Nothing is more valuable that the wisdom, humor, compassion, and appreciation of the small things that one can learn from an older person.
Do you have a story about what you have learned from a senior? Please comment and share it.
Thanks, Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
A New Entry From ‘The Girl’ who wrote THE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything
I’m already working on more stories about ‘The Girl’. In fact, I’m hoping for a book about her to be published in China. That book will contain lots of entries that have been hidden up to now. Here is one:
" We got our report cards yesterday. I got 2 C’s, 5 B’s and 4 A’s. My parents were pleased. They know how hard school really is. I’m lucky to have parents that understand. Today in school Angela told me she can’t talk on the phone for three months. That’s her punishment for not getting better marks. She got 4 C’s, 6 B’s and only 1 A. I don’t think that is such a bad report card!
I hate her parents for making her feel so bad about herself and her marks and I hate them because I can’t talk to her every night. She is my best friend. I need to talk to her at night! This is terrible and that’s the truth."———————————————————
This excerpt from a future edition of SmarTHE TRUTH, I’m Ten, I’m Smart and I Know Everything,is designed to elicit conversation about our marking system and also how parent’s handle and interpret children’s report cards. What do you think? Are you more like the girl’s parents or more like Angela’s?
Please comment. Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, www.enchantedself.com
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